February 17, 2012

Fighting for Your Marriage



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Even when your love feels like heaven, you still have to learn to live together on earth.

The current projection is that among young couples marrying for the first time today, about 40 to 50 percent of them will eventually divorce. Aside from those who divorce, many other couples wind up staying together through many years of unhappiness.

-Fighting for Your Marriage

That above statement was one that caught my attention in this book! In today’s society so many people who marry turn around and end it like it was no big deal. (Look at most of the celebrities out there!) Is marriage not worth fighting for? Well, obviously WE think it is! Fighting for Your Marriage has incredible tools for assisting all types of marriages, not just those in trouble. Our marriage is not on the rocks, but I definitely found some great techniques to apply to solidify our relationship even more.

The goal of this book is to help you achieve a fulfilling, lasting, happy and healthy marriage. It teaches you ways that you can act on your desire to build and sustain a great relationship.  The beginning starts with the 5 keys for a great relationship: 1)Decide don’t slide, 2) do your part, 3) make it safe to connect, 4) open the doors to positive connections, and 5) nurture your commitment.

The authors then break down 3 parts of strengthening your marriage – Teaming up to handle conflict, enjoying each other, and staying the course. It gives great information and examples, provides effective tools for handling disagreements, and advice that you can apply right away. I love the quizzes, questions to answer and exercises – so much to do together.

The book teaches you how to improve your listening skills with the speaker-listener technique, the “speaker” feels such comfort in knowing that the other person has truly heard what he or she is trying to communicate. This is achieved by having the “listener” repeat back what the “speaker” has said without any judgement or defensiveness (this is KEY). The listener can find comfort in knowing that THEIR turn will come next, when they can then express their thoughts and feelings and even respond to the other person’s original comments. There are certain “below the belt” comments that are prohibited, which lend a feeling of safety, so that one is not afraid to bring up volatile subjects.

One tip that hit home for me was how EASY it is to focus on your partner as the source of the problem. Of course they have SOME role to a degree, however, you have a LOT of control over what YOU can do to help the relationship. For example, during a conflict maybe you see your spouse as acting unfairly. This may make you feel relieved of the responsibility to be the best partner you can be. But the authors remark that YOU need to hold up your end of the relationship even when you think your partner isn’t doing his or her share.

If you are looking to improve and strengthen your marriage, pick this one up! Such a great resource for anyone looking to work on communication or a struggling relationship.

Grab your OWN Copy of this book!

This book is so great that we want our readers to be able to benefit as well!  We are doing a giveaway to one of our readers so you all have a chance to benefit from this AMAZING book like we did!

So, which one of YOU wants to Fight for Your Marriage & WIN a copy of this book?

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The giveaway will end NEXT Friday, February 24th at 11:00 PST. We will announce the winner on Saturday, February 25th on our Facebook Page – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S.  SO sorry!!

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533 Responses to “Fighting for Your Marriage”

  1. Heather says:

    Fan on Facebook

  2. jennifer says:

    I follow you on facebook.

  3. jennifer says:

    hhmm… I think a marriage tip is to spend some time with each other.

  4. shanna says:

    I follow you on facebook.

  5. Heather says:

    My secret is…effort. It takes effort in a relationship. You have to keep it going, work to stay close, find things your enjoy together and TALK. I’ll admit there are some things I enjoy working on more than others 😉 but it is all worth it. I feel like I am making deposits into an account that carries a high interest rate and will return big dividends if I consistently watch it.

  6. jennifer says:

    I facebooked with sharing and me saying,”Look at this “fighting for your marriage” giveaway!”

  7. Heather says:

    “This is an awesome website with great date ideas! (and fun giveaways)”

    I don’t know how to do the link back but I did a shout out on FB

  8. Jody Muir says:

    Marriage tip – If it’s not gonna make a difference next week, it’s not worth fighting about.

  9. Julie says:

    I’m following you on Twitter!

  10. Julie says:

    I’m a Facebook fan of your Dating Divas Page!

  11. Meridith says:

    I’m a fan of The Dating Divas on Facebook!

  12. Julie says:

    I’ve only been married for 2 1/2 years, but one thing that makes my marriage successful is I always apologize after an argument, whether I think I was wrong or not. If I genuinely don’t think my actions warrant an apology I apologize for how it made him feel. He needs to know he’s important, and his feelings mean more than my pride.

  13. Meridith says:

    Successful marriage tip? I suppose remembering that my husband is God’s gift to me and that I am my husband’s gift from God. Then remembering that our marriage is a covenant agreement among the three of us. Oh, and love, laughter and friendship. :)

  14. Heather says:

    I follow on Twitter

  15. Audrey says:

    I follow your FB page!

  16. Heather says:

    I tweeted: Fighting for – http://goo.gl/H6YJe Win a copy of Fighting for Your Marriage over at Dating Divas!

  17. Nicole says:

    I follow Dating Divas on facebook!

  18. Audrey says:

    My recent most helpful idea is to always “believe the best.” “Love believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things….” (1 Corinthians 13), and if we believe our spouse meant the best, we’ll usually be right, and we’ll usually avoid a fight. :)

  19. Heather says:

    Marriage secret: Husbands love their wives and wives respect their husbands (had to learn it the hard way! from Dr. Eggerichs)

  20. Nicole says:

    communcation is key!!! He is an awesome guy…but not a mind reader =)

  21. Hollie Hauptly says:

    I like you on Facebook.

  22. Heather K Miller says:

    I am a fan on Facebook of the Dating Divas!

  23. Hollie Hauptly says:

    My marriage is worth fighting for!

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