February 17, 2012

Fighting for Your Marriage



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Even when your love feels like heaven, you still have to learn to live together on earth.

The current projection is that among young couples marrying for the first time today, about 40 to 50 percent of them will eventually divorce. Aside from those who divorce, many other couples wind up staying together through many years of unhappiness.

-Fighting for Your Marriage

That above statement was one that caught my attention in this book! In today’s society so many people who marry turn around and end it like it was no big deal. (Look at most of the celebrities out there!) Is marriage not worth fighting for? Well, obviously WE think it is! Fighting for Your Marriage has incredible tools for assisting all types of marriages, not just those in trouble. Our marriage is not on the rocks, but I definitely found some great techniques to apply to solidify our relationship even more.

The goal of this book is to help you achieve a fulfilling, lasting, happy and healthy marriage. It teaches you ways that you can act on your desire to build and sustain a great relationship.  The beginning starts with the 5 keys for a great relationship: 1)Decide don’t slide, 2) do your part, 3) make it safe to connect, 4) open the doors to positive connections, and 5) nurture your commitment.

The authors then break down 3 parts of strengthening your marriage – Teaming up to handle conflict, enjoying each other, and staying the course. It gives great information and examples, provides effective tools for handling disagreements, and advice that you can apply right away. I love the quizzes, questions to answer and exercises – so much to do together.

The book teaches you how to improve your listening skills with the speaker-listener technique, the “speaker” feels such comfort in knowing that the other person has truly heard what he or she is trying to communicate. This is achieved by having the “listener” repeat back what the “speaker” has said without any judgement or defensiveness (this is KEY). The listener can find comfort in knowing that THEIR turn will come next, when they can then express their thoughts and feelings and even respond to the other person’s original comments. There are certain “below the belt” comments that are prohibited, which lend a feeling of safety, so that one is not afraid to bring up volatile subjects.

One tip that hit home for me was how EASY it is to focus on your partner as the source of the problem. Of course they have SOME role to a degree, however, you have a LOT of control over what YOU can do to help the relationship. For example, during a conflict maybe you see your spouse as acting unfairly. This may make you feel relieved of the responsibility to be the best partner you can be. But the authors remark that YOU need to hold up your end of the relationship even when you think your partner isn’t doing his or her share.

If you are looking to improve and strengthen your marriage, pick this one up! Such a great resource for anyone looking to work on communication or a struggling relationship.

Grab your OWN Copy of this book!

This book is so great that we want our readers to be able to benefit as well!  We are doing a giveaway to one of our readers so you all have a chance to benefit from this AMAZING book like we did!

So, which one of YOU wants to Fight for Your Marriage & WIN a copy of this book?

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The giveaway will end NEXT Friday, February 24th at 11:00 PST. We will announce the winner on Saturday, February 25th on our Facebook Page – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S.  SO sorry!!

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533 Responses to “Fighting for Your Marriage”

  1. Hollie Hauptly says:

    Marriage Secret: We call it pillow talk. Have a good conversation every night before going to bed.

  2. Heather K Miller says:

    Our happy marriage “secret” is nightly “dates.” Atleast 4 nights a week, we put our kids to bed and have an at home date night. We make sure we spend the whole night together, eating some sort of ice cream treat, watching tv or reading together and talking. It’s a great way for us to reconnect after a busy day or week.

  3. Melanie says:

    I follow the Dating Divas on twitter @momentofharmony

  4. Melanie says:

    I am a dating divas facebook fan

  5. Leoni says:

    I like on FB

  6. Melanie says:

    One simple marriage tip: listen without judging.

  7. Rebecca says:

    I am a FAN of The Dating Divas Facebook Fan Page.

  8. Rebecca says:

    My successful marriage secret would be to hang on during the hard times because they will pass, and cherish the good times because they too will pass.

  9. Rebecca says:

    My marriage IS worth fighting for!

  10. Racheal Smith says:

    I am following on Facebook.

  11. Racheal Smith says:

    I have learned in my few years of being married that having quality conversation every day keeps my husband and I happy together.

  12. Jenny says:

    I follow you on FB!

  13. Jenny says:

    I’m a newsletter subscriber too!

  14. Jenny says:

    And my marriage secret… don’t have expectations. It sounds funny but I wish someone would have told me when I was first married to not have this grandeous expectations thinking my marriage should be like what’s on TV and the movies.

  15. Katie Hamblin says:

    “My marriage IS worth fighting for!”

  16. Katie Hamblin says:

    My marriage success is be honest always! No matter what.

  17. Katie Hamblin says:

    I used facebook to share :)

  18. Matt says:

    Fighting for – http://goo.gl/H6YJe Love this site its got great ideas! posted to twitter handle Kalebdad

  19. Matt says:

    I am a fan of facebook page

  20. Matt says:

    I follow on twitter

  21. Nadine says:

    Advice: put your spouse above all others, make time to keep common interests and learn about each other. Even when you have children and it seems hard to spare time, because when everyone else is grown or moved on its still you and your spouse

  22. Laura McMullin says:

    I am a follower on facebook

  23. Laura McMullin says:

    Marriage secret: One we’ve finally learned is not to over share information with extended family. My husband comes from a tight knit family and he at the beginning would tell them everything and made me feel uncomfortable around his family.

    Another important one is being open and honest with finances with one another and budgeting TOGETHER.

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