February 17, 2012

Fighting for Your Marriage



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Even when your love feels like heaven, you still have to learn to live together on earth.

The current projection is that among young couples marrying for the first time today, about 40 to 50 percent of them will eventually divorce. Aside from those who divorce, many other couples wind up staying together through many years of unhappiness.

-Fighting for Your Marriage

That above statement was one that caught my attention in this book! In today’s society so many people who marry turn around and end it like it was no big deal. (Look at most of the celebrities out there!) Is marriage not worth fighting for? Well, obviously WE think it is! Fighting for Your Marriage has incredible tools for assisting all types of marriages, not just those in trouble. Our marriage is not on the rocks, but I definitely found some great techniques to apply to solidify our relationship even more.

The goal of this book is to help you achieve a fulfilling, lasting, happy and healthy marriage. It teaches you ways that you can act on your desire to build and sustain a great relationship.  The beginning starts with the 5 keys for a great relationship: 1)Decide don’t slide, 2) do your part, 3) make it safe to connect, 4) open the doors to positive connections, and 5) nurture your commitment.

The authors then break down 3 parts of strengthening your marriage – Teaming up to handle conflict, enjoying each other, and staying the course. It gives great information and examples, provides effective tools for handling disagreements, and advice that you can apply right away. I love the quizzes, questions to answer and exercises – so much to do together.

The book teaches you how to improve your listening skills with the speaker-listener technique, the “speaker” feels such comfort in knowing that the other person has truly heard what he or she is trying to communicate. This is achieved by having the “listener” repeat back what the “speaker” has said without any judgement or defensiveness (this is KEY). The listener can find comfort in knowing that THEIR turn will come next, when they can then express their thoughts and feelings and even respond to the other person’s original comments. There are certain “below the belt” comments that are prohibited, which lend a feeling of safety, so that one is not afraid to bring up volatile subjects.

One tip that hit home for me was how EASY it is to focus on your partner as the source of the problem. Of course they have SOME role to a degree, however, you have a LOT of control over what YOU can do to help the relationship. For example, during a conflict maybe you see your spouse as acting unfairly. This may make you feel relieved of the responsibility to be the best partner you can be. But the authors remark that YOU need to hold up your end of the relationship even when you think your partner isn’t doing his or her share.

If you are looking to improve and strengthen your marriage, pick this one up! Such a great resource for anyone looking to work on communication or a struggling relationship.

Grab your OWN Copy of this book!

This book is so great that we want our readers to be able to benefit as well!  We are doing a giveaway to one of our readers so you all have a chance to benefit from this AMAZING book like we did!

So, which one of YOU wants to Fight for Your Marriage & WIN a copy of this book?

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Wanna Enter THIS Giveaway?

{Must be a “Dating Divas” newsletter subscriber to be eligible to enter…..top right-hand corner of website.}

There are FOUR different ways you can be entered…you can do ALL of them to have FOUR entries or just one – BUT make sure EACH one is typed in a separate comment!

#1 – By following The Dating Divas on TWITTER.

#2 – By becoming a FAN of  The Dating Divas Facebook Fan Page.

#3 By sharing one of your successful marriage secrets with us.

#4 – By spreading the word about this giveaway via email, blog post, Facebook, or Twitter {Please re-post your actual ”Shout-Out” that you sent to all your friends in your comment below & let us know which networking method above you used.  A link-back to that post/tweet/etc.  if possible, would also be great!}

The giveaway will end NEXT Friday, February 24th at 11:00 PST. We will announce the winner on Saturday, February 25th on our Facebook Page – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S.  SO sorry!!

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533 Responses to “Fighting for Your Marriage”

  1. Cara Higley says:

    Successful Marriage Secret isn’t really a secret- be each others best friend!! Communicate, date, have fun like tickle fights or play games, talk, pray together, listen, do little romantic surprises for each other! My husband one day put stickies all over our house with i love you written in tons of different languages and on my bed at the end he wrote on a note that no matter how you say it- i love you (or something like that). Love my honey!!

  2. Cara Higley says:

    I tweeted about the giveaway!!! https://twitter.com/#!/carajeanh/status/172957462507425792
    My twitter name is carajeanh! LOVE Dating Divas!

  3. Angel Boessen says:

    I liked you on facebook!

  4. Angel Boessen says:

    Our marriage secret: Being open and open-minded with each other.

  5. Amber says:

    Marriage Secret- Be each others best Friend and #1 go to person!!!

  6. Amber says:

    FB fan!!!

  7. Kathie Payne says:

    I follow you on FB!

    I shared the link on FB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=684717599&ref=tn_tnmn (I am not sure if this is what you were talking about with sharing the link of our shout out, but I tried!) haha

    Our marriage secret is to make each other a priority! We spend every Wednesday together….our kids are old enough that they are all in school, so that is our day to sleep in, have a nice breakfast together and just focus on each other. Sometimes we have to run errands or other things, but we always do them TOGETHER!!!!! We also spend time talking with each other before we go to sleep….it’s become such a habit now after 1.5 years of doing these two simple things! Wednesday is my FAVORITE day of the week! 😀 We have been married for 19 years and this was a good boost to the relationship! We hadn’t realized how casual and laid back we had gotten with our relationship! This is WAY better! Why didn’t we think of this 19 years ago? haha

  8. Jennie says:

    I am a fan of the Dating Divas facebook page!

  9. becca says:

    1. I follow you on twitter
    2.I follow you on FB
    3. Marriage secret: keep each other a priority despite the many many distractions of life.
    4. I twittered a@beccachats

  10. Terrie says:

    My marriage is worth fighting for!

    My husband is my best friend and everything is 100%/100% with us!

  11. kristy says:

    tweeted @oldsewnnew #giveaway ! Fighting for your marriage! – goo.gl/H6YJe

  12. Christy says:

    I am a fan on FB!!

  13. kristy says:

    followed on FB

  14. kristy says:

    tweeted @oldsewnnew
    #giveaway ! Fighting for your marriage! – goo.gl/H6YJe

  15. Sammi says:

    Even after almost 35 years of marriage I love to read your fun ideas….romance continues, especially after so many years together! I love it that when my husband and I have been apart for several hours, as soon as I see him I’m “home”, wherever we happen to be!

  16. Ashley says:

    I follow you on FB.

  17. Ashley says:

    Marriage Secret – We have a weekly couple’s meeting in which we discuss any issues that we are having in a safe and calm forum (rather than saying things we will regret in the heat of the moment), talk about our budget, talk about the kids, and do a marriage builder.

  18. Christina says:

    I’m an FB fan :)

  19. Nikkala says:

    Shared on FB. Love e dating divas and their FABULOUS ideas. My ‘secret’ is just to never give up. Just cause it’s hard doesn’t mean you don’t work for it. Too many people think that if something gets hard it means to give up and I don’t want to do that with my marriage. Way too important!

  20. BrieAnne says:

    Check out the Dating Divas on facebook they give away cool prizes and give great advice on making your marriage better!!!!

  21. Melissa H. says:

    I follow you on Twitter!

  22. Melissa H. says:

    I’m a FB fan also!!! Love Dating Divas!!!

  23. Melissa H. says:

    My marriage secret is to be supporative, be there, love your spouse, put the past behind you and focus on today!

  24. Amber D. says:

    I am a big fan of DD on facebook!

  25. Amber D. says:

    My biggest tip is never give up and keep working at it!

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