Rockin’ Review: The 5 Love Languages

Once AGAIN….. two of our “dahling” divas have done reviews on a book that is amazing! I don’t know about you guys out there, but I have heard nothing but raving reviews on this book.

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The 5 Love Languages

by Dr. Chapman

I have read many wonderful marriage books, but I really feel like I gained some valuable knowledge from this one. My husband and I read this book together which I highly recommend doing. We read a chapter each night and then talked about what we learned and how we felt. It is amazing how Dr. Chapman has really been able to capture the essence of each emotional love language and what makes our love tanks stay full.

He touches on what should be the most obvious ways to keep the love alive in a marriage, yet they aren’t obvious even to a couple with longevity! I have to admit that I hadn’t even considered his points until I read his book, but they make absolute sense. I had this feeling of enlightenment throughout the book as I thought to myself, “Duh! I should know this stuff!”

Dr. Chapman talks several times over through out this book about keeping your spouse’s emotional love tank full. One part that truly resonated with me was this:

“When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and [he] feels secure in your love, the whole world looks bright and your spouse will move out to reach [his] highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and [he] feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and [he] will likely never reach [his] potential for good in the world.”

This is SO true! This is a simple truth that my mother taught to me in not so many words. She always taught me that a good man is a product of a good marriage. This is also true of a good wife. At least that is how I feel about myself. My husband has brought out all of my good qualities and I continue to strive to be a better wife and person because he loves me so well.

Onto the Love Languages. I don’t want to “spoil” what this book holds in store for each of you. Just know that as you read through each of these chapters you will not only discover many new things about yourself, but you will also learn a lot about your spouse, too. Hopefully even more than you ever thought possible. Knowledge is power and if you have the knowledge of what your spouse really needs to fill his/her love tank then you have the power to change your marriage for the better.

Luckily, both my husband and I have a good read on each other and we have pretty well nailed down what each other’s love language is without knowing it. The interesting part is neither of us fit into just ONE of the categories. Probably because both of us possibly have had our emotional love tanks full for a long time. Or it could be because both of us express love in many ways so we’re not sure which love language makes us feel more loved.

We took the profile at the end that admittedly didn’t help either of us discover our ultimate love language. This could be due to the fact that both my husband and I are Gemini’s (if you believe in all that, then we are twins. Multiple personalities make for multiple love languages. lol). Anyway, I do feel that this part was really helpful to understand the differences between the different love languages. Overall, I really felt like this book was definitely worth the read. If you and your spouse have been struggling in your marriage or if you are just looking to take your marriage to the next level, then this book is for you! It is witty and brilliant and will give you a “warm & fuzzy” feeling at the end.

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When my cute cuz {& fellow diva} Kristen started raving about the book, The 5 Love Languages, I decided I should look into it.  My hubby, Jamie, & I were given the book on CD when we were first married, but with Jamie not being a huge reader and me never having a spare minute to myself….we just never got around to it. HUGE mistake! I am telling you…..if you are going to read just ONE marriage book in your lifetime…then this would be the one to choose!

The author, Gary Chapman, starts off by clearing up the “mystery” as to why the honeymoon phase fizzles at the beginning of marriages. He tells us: “We have been led to believe that if we are really in love, it will last forever. …We observe that some married couples seem to have lost that feeling, but it will never happen to us. ‘Maybe they didn’t have the real thing,’ we reason. Unfortunately the eternalityof the in-love experience is fiction, not fact.  …We can recognize the in-love experience for what it was – a temporary emotional high – and now pursue ‘real love’ with our spouse. ….It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another….”

He goes on to explain that everybody gives and receives love in different ways….but that it can generally be broken down into five categories: words of affirmation {compliments}, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Most people have a “front runner” love language and then a secondary one. It’s not very common that two people with the same love language end up together….THUS….you need to figure out what “strikes a chord” in your spouse so you know how to “feed his love tank.” For example, my love language is TOTALLY “words of affirmation”!! If my hot hubby tells me I look beautiful, I go weak at the knees. My husband’s love language is physical touch. COMPLETELY different, huh! Now, if I were to tell my husband he looks amazing {…which I tend to do, since he IS…and that is how I perceive showing love}….he would definitely appreciate it….but…it would mean SO much more if I walked across the room and laid a BIG kiss on his lips! That’s how HE recognizes love being shown…since it’s his “love language”.

He has learned to read my love language and I have learned to read his. We both have the secondary love language of acts of service….so by doing things to help out the other person….we each win “brownie points.” {WINK}

This book has SO much to offer! It’s a book you will want to refer back to again and again! I highlighted my copy like crazy…and I thought I would pass a few of my FAV quotes from the book along. Kinda a little bit of a “teaser”….are you ready?

“The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.”

“When I demand things from my spouse, I become a parent and she the child.”

“It isn’t enough to just be in the same room with someone. A key ingredient in giving your spouse quality time is giving them focused attention…. Recent research has indicated that the average individual listens for only seventeen seconds before interrupting and interjecting his own ideas.”

“What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.”

Ahhhh….you’re hooked, huh!  I am telling you…this is such a great motivation book and a must-have for every relationship! So what are you waiting for?? Either enter our giveaway OR go purchase your own copy ASAP! Amazon has them for SUPER cheap! You can get a new copy for less than $7 + shipping. :) ENJOY!!

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If you would like to enter THIS giveaway….you can do so by combining the following information….in ONE comment….
 
#1 – By subscribing to The DATING DIVA  Weekly Newsletter {top right-hand corner of the website} & letting us know you are an official “newsletter reader”. :roll:
AND
By telling us WHICH love language you and your spouse each have. :) If you don’t know, check it out here!
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The giveaway will end tomorrow, Friday, January 21st at 11:00 MST. We will announce the winner on our Facebook Page on January 22nd – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S. – SO sorry!!

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  1. I also gave a shout out on my blog (but its a private blog) – “Want to make your dates more meaningful-enter to win this book that teaches you how to communicate to your spouse!!”

  2. I am a Newsletter reader. Also I have been dying to read this book. And to be honest I am not sure what love language I speak or my husband….when I read about them we each seem to have a little bit of at least 2 of them each. I do know though that when my husband looks at me and tells me he loves me, before I tell him, or he tells me I did something good I love that…and I also love when he is with me and he doesn’t check his phone or get on the computer…

  3. Sounds like a great book!

    I am an official newsletter subscriber

    Since my husband and I are both Gemini’s we seem to have several of the languages combined but if I had to pick one for each I’d go with Acts of Service for myself and my husband’s would be Physical Touch.

  4. I love the idea of this book! I loved figuring out what our love languages were!

    Mine are words of affirmation and acts of sevice pretty much equally!
    My husbands are acts of service! Which explains why he loves it when I make him dinner, do our laundry and give him rubs haha :)

    I would love to win this book so we can learn more about how to be the best spouses we can be! :)

  5. Official reader!

    My husband’s love language is physical touch while mine is Acts of Service followed very closely by gifts.

    I chomp at the bit waiting for new posts to find something that I can adapt to us…

  6. I subscribed to the newsletter. My love language is probably either quality time or physical touch. Not really sure what my husband’s would be…maybe acts of service or words of afformation?

  7. Definetely a subscriber! :)
    I am a act of service. It is a little difficult choosing only one for my husband, but I think it’s the quality time one for him.

  8. Already a subscriber :} I am pretty sure my love language is Physical Touch, but Acts of Service is a close second. My wonderful husband is a Words of Affirmation, most definitely! Way to be opposites!

  9. I’m a subscriber. I know my language is definitely gifts and words of affirmation but I’m having a hard time figuring out my husband’s–hopefully the book will help with that! I’ve been meaning to read it for a while. Thank you!

  10. I would LOVE for us to read this book! I’m an official newsletter subscriber. My hubby’s love language is physical touch and words. Mine is acts of service :)

  11. I’m not entering this giveaway, cause I already own the book! It is wonderful! My husband and I read it while we were engaged and I believe it has helped us understand each other a little better in our married lives.

  12. I have subscribed to your adorable site…and I think I have a few languages…I’m multilingual..haha….but my main one is quality time and receiving gifts and my husbands I think is quality time.

  13. Shoutout!!

    Tracy Alexander Jensen
    I stumbled on the cutest website from my friend Tuesdee Behling Barclay….it’s a marriage blog and they are having a giveaway….please check them out….it’s an adorable site and they have great ideas!!!

    Book Review and Giveaway: The 5 Love Languages! | The Dating Divas
    http://www.thedatingdivas.com
    Enter to win this amazing book! It will help you to understand your spouse’s LOVE language and make your relationship even better!

  14. I know that if I don’t want to LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING, I love my husband up with lots of hugs, kisses and all that physical stuff. He knows that I feel loved and secure when he takes care of me through acts of service.

    I am an “official” newsletter reader.

    Keep it up! I especially love the ideas that are cheap and free as my husband is in nursing school and money is tight.

    Thanks for everything!

    Lynn DeBuhr Johnson
    Swea City Iowa

  15. I SO want and NEED this book & definitely don’t wanna LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING!! I am wanting to make this Valentine’s an extra special one and this book would definitely help!! :) From reading about the book I am a “Words Of Affirmation” lover and my husband is a “Physical Touch” kind.
    Here’s my ‘shout-out’ that I posted on Twitter:
    The @DatingDivas are giving away the book 5 Languages Of Love…but, don’t enter because I want to win!

  16. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING” …so pretty please choose me!!!!!! Please! Please! Please!!!

    Hubby’s love language is Words of Affirmation – mine is Quality Time.
    You guys are great! Thanks for doing this!

  17. I definitely read your news letter (p.s. my fiance LOVED the chocolate peanut butter cupcakes from birthday week) and I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING!” I am getting married in April… and what a better time than now to understand each others love languages!….so pretty pretty please choose me!

  18. I became a subscriber 2 weeks ago and with this site I will never “lose that Lovin’ feeling”. My language is acts of service and my hubbies is Physical touch (at least I think it is!? But if I won the book I would know for sure :0) Thanks you adorable gals!

  19. I subscribed to your newsletter pretty much as soon as you announced your new page, and I enjoy reading through them when they come!

    My primary love language is Quality Time and Hubby’s is gifts.

  20. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!

    My love language is acts of service/receiving gifts and my husband’s is physical touch.

  21. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!

    My love language is acts of service, my husband’s is receiving gifts/physical touch.

  22. I’m a subscriber AND I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me! Gosh, I’ve never thought of the languages of love. I think I could fall into all of the categories except for receiving gifts and probably my hubby too, but I could see how he may lean towards “words of affirmation” and “physical touch.”

  23. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!

    I love y’alls stuff. I surprised my husband with the black light idea last weekend!
    Awesome. He loved it!

    Keep up the great work!

  24. I’m a subscriber! My love language is acts of service and my husbands is physical touch. I have never read the book but we’ve taken the simple test to find out our languages and it’s already helped us better understand each other. Now I just need to win to read the whole book!

  25. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!
    My love language is definitely acts of service that he does everyday.
    His love language is about half touch and words of affirmation. He definitely likes to hear
    how appreciated he truly is. Don’t we all!

    Thanks again for all y’all do!!!!!

  26. I don’t really know how to link it back, but I put it on my facebook page and this is what I wrote “I really want to win this book. I keep hearing it’s a great one to read!!! ” with a link to the site!!!
    I am a subscriber to the newsletter!! I would say that my husband’s and my love language is a little bit of all, but we definitely like that “Physical Touch!” I love holding hands, touching in any way possible!!
    AND…..
    I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!

  27. I have heard great things about this book! I love the qoute “The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.”
    I am Words of Affirmation and physical touch.

  28. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me! My husband is physical touch and I think I have all of them! haha, but probably quality time is my highest! :)

  29. I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!
    My love language is acts of service, and my hubby’s is physical touch and words of affirmation! :) Thanks I’d love to own this book!

  30. I am a subscriber :) My spouse and I are both physical touch and words of affirmation. What I have found though is that we have very different dialects! Espeically in the physical touch language! 😉

  31. I’m a newsletter subscriber! My love language would have to be service and my husband’s physical touch.

    I don’t want to “LOSE THAT LOVIN’ FEELING”….so pretty please choose me!

  32. i am a subscriber! and ohhh i would LOVE this book! i believe my husband is an acts of service and i am physical touch…LOL but i actually think we could both be a bit of all or MOST ! :)

  33. I am a subscriber to your newsletter. I love this book. We had it for Book Club and did it for a wedding shower. We had activities for each of the love languages. It was so awesome! If any of you have single friends there is a single edition and if you really look at this book it is really a book about ALL relationships. Have difficulty with a coworker find out their love language and act on it. The person may have an empty work love tank. It is really amazing what this book can bring into your life. Hey also if you have kids he has one for that too! He has a radio show that I listen to as a pod cast. What a great way to remember what he has taught. 😀 Thanks for reading!

  34. I’m a subscriber to the newsletter!

    This sounds like such an amazing book! I’ve read and heard so many awesome reviews from so many different women about how great this book is. I’m secretly hoping I’m lucky enough to win this giveaway! I would love to read this book!

    As for which love language my husband and I are – He is move Physical Touch while I’m more of a acts of service kind of gal. My husband is always showing his affection by holding my hand, giving me hugs, giving me back rubs, kisses, etc. While I like to make sure his favorite snake bowl is always washed or take out the trash for him when he isn’t looking or making me his favorite meal for dinner unexpected.

  35. I love getting the newsletter!! Full of fabulous ideas and links to the posts.

    I think our language is often the one of service, but more often the little acts of affirmation.

  36. I posted this with the link on my facebook page.

    “Win this awesome book!! Enter before 11 pm MST today!!”

    Could you post how to link to the post? I don’t know how.

  37. Hi,
    My sister told me about your site and I love it! Just wanted to tell you, I have read this book, it’s a good one! But if you love this, I think you would love one by John Lund called “For All Eternity.” I have the audio tape and we listen to it when we are driving places. IT is SO GOOD! He has a cute sense of humor and it totally talks about the same ideas.