October 21, 2011

Giveaway: The 100 Day Promise



When Brian King’s wife first contacted us & told us about her husband’s book….I was instantly intrigued!  I am extremely familiar with the point of view of a wife, as I live that every day.  I was excited to see how a husband decided he was going to work on his marriage….as an experiment….without telling his wife what was *really* going on!

He set out to love and serve his wife for 100 DAYS!!  Ummm….do you know how long that is?!?  I read his book, fell in love with the concept, and decided I was going to try it out.  I was going to make a conscious effort to put my spouse FIRST each day….and I was going to keep a journal & record the whole process.

I think I *started* my 100 Days at least three times.  It’s HARD!!  Seriously!  We preach every day on our site to think about your spouse and think of what you can do for that person.  I feel that overall, I am a loving wife who would do anything for my husband….but we, as humans, are naturally selfish!  I tend to kinda want that last piece of chocolate…..or prefer to sleep in a little longer and let him get up first to handle morning duties….or am slow to be excited about watching a football game with him on TV…..

*I am addicted to chocolate.

*I looooove my sleep.

* I would rather watch a Chick Flick….or reality TV.

BUT – I do love my husband and he is more important than ANY of those things.  This is the message that Brian King tries to get across to his readers.  This book is a little different because he shares with us his journal entries.  We get to take the journey WITH him as he fights against any selfish instincts he may have and diligently serves his wife on a daily basis.   We get to see a REAL marriage completely exposed.  We go on the journey with him as he talks about the ups, the downs, the changes in his relationship, & the improvements in his marriage.

I started doing this again {for the 4th time} and I realized that both Jamie & I already DO put each other first most of the time, but I want it to become as natural as breathing to me. I don’t even want to have to think about it!  I did simple things like bringing him a drink when I got one for myself, offering to give him a backrub, letting him use the laptop first, giving him a compliment, offering to clean up dinner by myself so he could watch a game with one of our friend, etc.  Like I said, these are usually things we already DO….but it helps to have it foremost on my mind.

ALSO – part of this is holding our tongues.  Not saying those snappy comments, when on the brink of an argument, take the higher road and apologize first, etc.  Using KIND words is something the author stressed in the book.  Jamie & I don’t argue very often, but I am definitely going to try to take the higher road if any do come up.   :)

I would highly recommend this book.  It’s a quick & fun read….and you will want to immediately start YOUR 100 Days as soon as you finish reading!  See what Cami says below after she read it….

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I believe that if people focused on trying to better themselves, both in their marriage and in their personal life, life overall would be so much better.  This is exactly what Brian King, author of The 100 Day Promise, did for his life.  The idea of his book came on a night, driving in the car on the way home from a trip, and having, yet again, another misunderstanding with his wife.  How many times do you have misunderstandings with your spouse that should be so small, but you make it so big?  It happens too many times for all of us.

Brian King wanted peace back in his relationship, so decided to do an ‘experiment’.  He promised himself that for 100 days he would make a conscious effort to love and serve his wife completely for 100 days.  He wondered what would happen to himself, to his wife, their marriage, and their family if he did this?  Well, he put his experiment to the test and wrote a book with his findings!  And it’s GREAT!

So, what do I LOVE about this book?  Many things, but to name just a few…I love that it is a FAST, easy read – with great results, I love that you can feel the author’s emotion and elation throughout the 100 days as he sees the improvements in his life, I love that it is such an easy, simple task to do: love and serve your spouse – something everyone in a marriage should be doing already, and I love hearing the improvements that not only came to the marriage, but the author’s overall happiness with life.  Who would have thought that serving someone else would make you feel so good?  In the book, Brian King states that he wanted to serve the way he would want to be served.  The Golden Rule to the T!

“Stretching our souls in service helps us to rise above our cares concerns and challenges.  As we focus our energies on lifting the burdens of others, something miraculous happens.  Our own burdens diminish.  We become happier.  There is more substance to our lives.”  David S. Baxter, page 23, The 100 Day Promise.

When serving others, we become happier.  What more could we ask for?!  And even more, when serving our spouse, they benefit too!  Brian King held himself accountable to this experiment by typing his thoughts down at the end of every night.  He recorded the things he tried to improve on everyday and his spouse’s reaction.  He tried to live with a different mindset, and it made a world of a difference in his life and marriage. I love that he was able to get over the ‘small’ stuff real fast, and move on.  He also states that being nice doesn’t really take much more effort than being ‘normal’.  How great is that?!  Something that does so much good for your life, isn’t hard to do!!!!

As the experiment goes on, living like this becomes 2nd nature to him.  Less than half way through the 100 days, he realized that his actions were driven less by the experiment and more by his natural desire.  He also said that he noticed that kindness seemed to bounce back right at him too!  Even though he was the only one doing this experiment, both people (in the marriage) are improving!  His wife said to him that “kindness comes back”.  Isn’t that so true?  A little bit of kindness goes a LONG way!

I just love this book.  I think that everyone who reads it can benefit.  By the end of the 100 days the author notes how different his thoughts and actions were, how much his wife’s actions had changed, and the overall happy feeling of his household.  He noticed that he wanted to be home and couldn’t wait for work to get over to be there!   I loved reading how such small changes in his life could have such an amazing affect over his whole outlook and happiness in life!

This book is so great that we want our readers to be able to benefit as well!  We are doing a giveaway to one of our readers so you all have a chance to benefit from this AMAZING book like we did!

So, which one of YOU want to take on the 100 day challenge and see how it improves your marriage?!

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Wanna Enter THIS Giveaway?

{Must be a “Dating Divas” newsletter subscriber to be eligible to enter…..top right-hand corner of website.}

There are FOUR different ways you can be entered…you can do ALL of them to have FOUR entries or just one – BUT make sure EACH one is typed in a separate comment!

#1 – By following The Dating Divas on TWITTER.

#2 – By becoming a FAN of  The Dating Divas Facebook Fan Page.

#3 By sharing one of your successful marriage secrets with us.

#4 – By spreading the word about this giveaway via email, blog post, text message, Facebook, or Twitter {Please re-post your actual ”Shout-Out” that you sent to all your friends in your comment below & let us know which networking method above you used.  A link-back to that post/tweet/etc.  if possible, would also be great!}

The giveaway will end NEXT Friday, October 28th at 11:00 PST. We will announce the winner on Saturday, October 29th on our Facebook Page – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S.  SO sorry!!

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380 Responses to “Giveaway: The 100 Day Promise”

  1. Follow DD on Twitter -@tally2525

  2. Melissa M. says:

    Following you on twitter!

  3. Melissa M. says:

    Following dating divas on facebook!

  4. Melissa M. says:

    Never stop laughing together. It really does help in the hardest of times. Also, try to say (and think) more positive things about your spouse than negative, and each day go over why you are thankful to have them in your life!

  5. Julie Hatch says:

    I’m a fan of the Dating Divas on facebook!

  6. Julie Hatch says:

    I love my boo!

  7. Julie Hatch says:

    I emailed this to my friends!

  8. Julie Hatch says:

    Always look for the good and give him encouraging feedback.

  9. Kayla says:

    I’m already a fb fan!!

  10. Kayla says:

    We aren’t married yet, not until APril 28th. However, I think this would be a great gift down the road! :)

  11. Melanie says:

    i am already following you on twitter!

  12. Melanie says:

    i’m a fan on FB!

  13. Melanie says:

    one of my “successful marriage secrets” isn’t really a secret. my husband’s “LOVE LANGUAGE” is acts of service, and we found this out very early on in our marriage. so every night after dinner, i pack his whole lunch, but i always sneak in a little somethin somethin that i know he’ll love, like a sexy note, or his favorite sweet treat. he says this truly makes his day, and the little sexy notes add a little spice to his day!

  14. Melanie says:

    also. i posted a tweet about this post, but i’m still new to twitter, so not how to post a link to my post…. my username is @mlynnejohnson, and i mentioned the dating divas!

    my “shout out” said…

    “check out the @DatingDivas book giveaway! the “project” in this book sounds hard, but so worth it!”

  15. Holly M. says:

    Remembering we are sent here to learn. Life is about learning from our experiences and bettering ourselves. That helps us be more patient with one another. We may not be perfect, but parts of us are excellent! And we are learning to improve the rest!

  16. Lonnie Peterson says:

    I follow you on FB

  17. Katie Ulrich says:

    I’m a fan on facebook!!!

  18. Sarah says:

    Following DD on facebook! Love reading your dating ideas and of course the giveaways are a plus!

  19. Sarah says:

    My marriage tip is to treat your husband like you would your boss: with respect! It’s easy to forget this especially when we are upset or just feeling put off by our husbands. But our husbands cannot show us love if they don’t feel respected. This is an idea we realized after reading “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It is another fantastic book to help strengthen the marriage relationship!

  20. Sarah says:

    Marriage tip: everyso often revisit the reasons why you fell in love with your spouse. My dad encouraged my husband and I to write these down on our wedding night and to revisit them every year. Sometimes we get caught up in the day to day cycles that we begin to lose sight of what it was that drew us to our partner in the first place. This is even more applicable once you’ve had children. Looking back at those reasons is guaranteed to make you both smile and light that flame again!

  21. Amanda Bowler says:

    Having the house clean is a great way to show my hubs that I appreciate all of his hard work by working hard myself.

  22. Amanda Bowler says:

    I \like\ you on facebook!

  23. Jackie says:

    I haven’t read this book yet. But if I don’t win it I will definitely look into buying it. Iloved the idea so much that I started this challenge myself. I’m even keeping my own personal blog about it and other things going on in our relationship. Would love for you to check it out! http://jackiehollow.blogspot.com/. I kind of like the idea of not reading the book first… No preconceived notions…. But I can’t wait to compare notes!

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