October 21, 2011

Giveaway: The 100 Day Promise



When Brian King’s wife first contacted us & told us about her husband’s book….I was instantly intrigued!  I am extremely familiar with the point of view of a wife, as I live that every day.  I was excited to see how a husband decided he was going to work on his marriage….as an experiment….without telling his wife what was *really* going on!

He set out to love and serve his wife for 100 DAYS!!  Ummm….do you know how long that is?!?  I read his book, fell in love with the concept, and decided I was going to try it out.  I was going to make a conscious effort to put my spouse FIRST each day….and I was going to keep a journal & record the whole process.

I think I *started* my 100 Days at least three times.  It’s HARD!!  Seriously!  We preach every day on our site to think about your spouse and think of what you can do for that person.  I feel that overall, I am a loving wife who would do anything for my husband….but we, as humans, are naturally selfish!  I tend to kinda want that last piece of chocolate…..or prefer to sleep in a little longer and let him get up first to handle morning duties….or am slow to be excited about watching a football game with him on TV…..

*I am addicted to chocolate.

*I looooove my sleep.

* I would rather watch a Chick Flick….or reality TV.

BUT – I do love my husband and he is more important than ANY of those things.  This is the message that Brian King tries to get across to his readers.  This book is a little different because he shares with us his journal entries.  We get to take the journey WITH him as he fights against any selfish instincts he may have and diligently serves his wife on a daily basis.   We get to see a REAL marriage completely exposed.  We go on the journey with him as he talks about the ups, the downs, the changes in his relationship, & the improvements in his marriage.

I started doing this again {for the 4th time} and I realized that both Jamie & I already DO put each other first most of the time, but I want it to become as natural as breathing to me. I don’t even want to have to think about it!  I did simple things like bringing him a drink when I got one for myself, offering to give him a backrub, letting him use the laptop first, giving him a compliment, offering to clean up dinner by myself so he could watch a game with one of our friend, etc.  Like I said, these are usually things we already DO….but it helps to have it foremost on my mind.

ALSO – part of this is holding our tongues.  Not saying those snappy comments, when on the brink of an argument, take the higher road and apologize first, etc.  Using KIND words is something the author stressed in the book.  Jamie & I don’t argue very often, but I am definitely going to try to take the higher road if any do come up.   :)

I would highly recommend this book.  It’s a quick & fun read….and you will want to immediately start YOUR 100 Days as soon as you finish reading!  See what Cami says below after she read it….

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I believe that if people focused on trying to better themselves, both in their marriage and in their personal life, life overall would be so much better.  This is exactly what Brian King, author of The 100 Day Promise, did for his life.  The idea of his book came on a night, driving in the car on the way home from a trip, and having, yet again, another misunderstanding with his wife.  How many times do you have misunderstandings with your spouse that should be so small, but you make it so big?  It happens too many times for all of us.

Brian King wanted peace back in his relationship, so decided to do an ‘experiment’.  He promised himself that for 100 days he would make a conscious effort to love and serve his wife completely for 100 days.  He wondered what would happen to himself, to his wife, their marriage, and their family if he did this?  Well, he put his experiment to the test and wrote a book with his findings!  And it’s GREAT!

So, what do I LOVE about this book?  Many things, but to name just a few…I love that it is a FAST, easy read – with great results, I love that you can feel the author’s emotion and elation throughout the 100 days as he sees the improvements in his life, I love that it is such an easy, simple task to do: love and serve your spouse – something everyone in a marriage should be doing already, and I love hearing the improvements that not only came to the marriage, but the author’s overall happiness with life.  Who would have thought that serving someone else would make you feel so good?  In the book, Brian King states that he wanted to serve the way he would want to be served.  The Golden Rule to the T!

“Stretching our souls in service helps us to rise above our cares concerns and challenges.  As we focus our energies on lifting the burdens of others, something miraculous happens.  Our own burdens diminish.  We become happier.  There is more substance to our lives.”  David S. Baxter, page 23, The 100 Day Promise.

When serving others, we become happier.  What more could we ask for?!  And even more, when serving our spouse, they benefit too!  Brian King held himself accountable to this experiment by typing his thoughts down at the end of every night.  He recorded the things he tried to improve on everyday and his spouse’s reaction.  He tried to live with a different mindset, and it made a world of a difference in his life and marriage. I love that he was able to get over the ‘small’ stuff real fast, and move on.  He also states that being nice doesn’t really take much more effort than being ‘normal’.  How great is that?!  Something that does so much good for your life, isn’t hard to do!!!!

As the experiment goes on, living like this becomes 2nd nature to him.  Less than half way through the 100 days, he realized that his actions were driven less by the experiment and more by his natural desire.  He also said that he noticed that kindness seemed to bounce back right at him too!  Even though he was the only one doing this experiment, both people (in the marriage) are improving!  His wife said to him that “kindness comes back”.  Isn’t that so true?  A little bit of kindness goes a LONG way!

I just love this book.  I think that everyone who reads it can benefit.  By the end of the 100 days the author notes how different his thoughts and actions were, how much his wife’s actions had changed, and the overall happy feeling of his household.  He noticed that he wanted to be home and couldn’t wait for work to get over to be there!   I loved reading how such small changes in his life could have such an amazing affect over his whole outlook and happiness in life!

This book is so great that we want our readers to be able to benefit as well!  We are doing a giveaway to one of our readers so you all have a chance to benefit from this AMAZING book like we did!

So, which one of YOU want to take on the 100 day challenge and see how it improves your marriage?!

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Wanna Enter THIS Giveaway?

{Must be a “Dating Divas” newsletter subscriber to be eligible to enter…..top right-hand corner of website.}

There are FOUR different ways you can be entered…you can do ALL of them to have FOUR entries or just one – BUT make sure EACH one is typed in a separate comment!

#1 – By following The Dating Divas on TWITTER.

#2 – By becoming a FAN of  The Dating Divas Facebook Fan Page.

#3 By sharing one of your successful marriage secrets with us.

#4 – By spreading the word about this giveaway via email, blog post, text message, Facebook, or Twitter {Please re-post your actual ”Shout-Out” that you sent to all your friends in your comment below & let us know which networking method above you used.  A link-back to that post/tweet/etc.  if possible, would also be great!}

The giveaway will end NEXT Friday, October 28th at 11:00 PST. We will announce the winner on Saturday, October 29th on our Facebook Page – so don’t forget to check back to see if the winner is YOU!!  Open only to those living in the U.S.  SO sorry!!

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380 Responses to “Giveaway: The 100 Day Promise”

  1. Elyssa says:

    I’m a fan of The Dating Divas on Facebook!

  2. Elyssa says:

    I think the secret to a great marriage is to make time for each other. Put the other person first, And to really listen to each other, and if there is a topic that you both don’t agree on, instead of disreguarding it or arguing about it, acknowledge your spouse, let them know that you heard and understood what they said, for example: “wow, I never thought of it like that. That’s one of the reasons I love you. Your mind works differently than mine.” Then leave it at that! It will save your marriage from falling apart because of the “little things” :)

  3. Marcela says:

    I’m a facebook fan!

  4. Kaitlin says:

    I’m a dating divas follower on facebook! (and via google reader) double point? 😉

  5. Kaitlin says:

    My key to marriage success: to put his feelings and opinions on the same level of importance as my own!! Not always easy to remember to do, but extremely important for us!

  6. I am a follower of yall’s on Twitter!

  7. Been a follower of yall’s on fb!

  8. I don’t know what advice I can give (only been married for a year!) but I can tell now-a-days when my husband is grumpy. He gets like this on Sundays when he’s been in meeting all morning & hasn’t eatin. I make his favorite dish (even if I hate it) & make sure it’s ready by the time he gets home. I’ve even started doing this everyday because his work stopped offering food when he’s there. I’ve been making his favorite breakfast foods, even learned new ones for him! I love doing this, even if it does make me alil late to work 😉 I love my husband & I don’t want him to worry about the little things. He’s a full time student as well as works full time. I can worry about the things that he doesn’t have time for!

  9. Justine C. says:

    Fan on facebook!

  10. Justine C. says:

    My secret ot a great marriage is remembering that my husband is NOT a mind reader! I have to use my words to communicate.

  11. Liz McDowell says:

    I am a facebook fan

  12. Amy Obolewicz says:

    I’m a fan of The Dating Divas on Facebook!

  13. Wendy says:

    I am a fan of The Dating Divas on facebook!

  14. Wendy says:

    My best marriage advice is to date often. We have 6 kids and we try to date each other every week (not to mention if gives me a break from the insanity!)

  15. Wendy says:

    Another piece of advice, which I have to give credit to “The Anatomy of Peace”, is to look at each other as people who have feelings, thoughts, trials, hopes, dreams, etc and not as objects.

  16. Kelly White says:

    I have been married over 12 yrs and we are parents to 2 wonderful children at the sametime, so we really didn’t have alot of couple time. Now that our kids are at the age of sleepovers with friends we find ourselves with more couple time but not with alot of ideas on what to do. Thanks to your site we are taking your date ideas and using them.

  17. Amanda says:

    To really love someone unconditionally you must always put their needs before yours, that is the definition of true love. I have been married for 10 yrs, and I try to think about what he would like often.
    One thing I do for my husband is when I know he is working late, I lay his clothes out and a fresh towel for the next day so he does not have to get up early or think about what to wear. I also leave him little love notes around the house, or make him a treat jar to take to work with snacks he can have throughout the day.
    One of the best things we did this year for our anniversary is to take time to go away without the kids. We walked the beach and talked alone, if was reinvigorating to our marriage. As busy as we are, we really needed to take the time to just be together. Now, it feels like we are dating again :)

    I am a fan on FB as well!

  18. Cristine Christoff says:

    I am a facebook fan 😉

  19. Kristen says:

    Posted on fb: Ever heard of the book, The 100 Day Promise? I had not until The Dating Divas featured it on their website. You should check it out… http://www.thedatingdivas.com/giveaways/the-100-day-promise/ Hope it helps spread the work about the Dating Divas and what looks like a great book!

  20. Becki says:

    Facebook fan!!! Pick me…pick me!!!
    As for advice…I don’t have much…but remember to say I LOVE YOU and give each other hugs…even if you’re not happy with each other…things WILL get better!!!

  21. Melissa says:

    I’m a fan of The Dating Divas on Facebook!

  22. Melissa says:

    Hmm marriage secrets… be selfless instead of selfish. Treat your spouse the way you would want to be treated, or the way you would treat your best friend. Don’t get caught up on the little things…pick your battles & don’t make something out of nothing. Whenever you are tempted to argue about something, ask yourself – is this worth it? Tell your spouse you love them EVERY day! Never get too old or too comfortable to do the little things…a random note in his wallet, dry erase message on the mirror, breakfast in bed. Look for the GOOD in everything your spouse does. Learn to APPRECIATE everything your spouse does for you. And most of all, do not keep score!! It doesn’t matter who does the dishes as long as they get done!! It doesn’t matter how many times you take out the trash before he does. None of this “your job” “my job” stuff. If you’re keeping track, it’s only going to hurt you.

  23. Melissa says:

    I posted the following as my Facebook status:

    Want some good marriage advice? Follow the link to this give away! Just reading about this book makes me want to work on being more selfless! It is so inspiring. It is SO easy to be selfish without even thinking about it…but the more you conciously try & put your spouse first, the more it will begin to come naturally…


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