June 22, 2012

You Paid How Much for That?

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Marriage books aren’t really my thing, as I tend to think it might be a waste of my time. I thought the title of this book was intriguing, but the size of the book was overwhelming! I kept putting it off to the side, thinking about reading it later. All I have to say is WOW! It was far better than I expected. I even got my husband involved in some of the ideas and questions that were posed. I would totally recommend this book to anyone and everyone. It really captures the essence of marriage on so many levels.

Don’t let the title fool you, as this book doesn’t only talk about money issues. It digs so much deeper and allows the reader to really assess everything about their relationship. It really separates the man from the woman. You will understand what your partner thinks, and feels through so many fantastic examples, figures, and statistics. There are four authors who have different voices and make this book a real winner.

 This book can be for anyone who is a relationship. It really touches on things that matter to every relationship. Finances go much deeper than I ever imagined. But it also makes a big deal about communicating with your partner, and sets it up for you to learn how to communicate to get along and be happier. They have made it easier to navigate by separating it into 4 sections:

1. Invisible Forces: This section allows you to see where some problems may start and how both partners have very valid points to their though process. It even includes a great quiz to try out with your spouse. The answers were very surprising. I also found myself thinking about how there are things that I can do better at in my own finances.

2. Now that we understand, what do we do? The ideas seem endless, and the best thing about this book, it that it gives you food for thought. There were lots of little things that made me stop to think about. I was able to skim through some areas, but found myself dragged back by the awesome examples and research that they had to make their points valid.

3. Show Us the Money: Start saving, learn how to stay out of debt or get out of debt, and investing. All of the information that seems to be overwhelming and not taught very often in life. These skills are a great skill to take into your relationship and start on right away. This would also be great to read, to freshen on all of these topics. I had a lot of oh yeah moments, and am excited to say that Brent and I made some goals of our own thanks to this book!

4. Finding Your Target: Commitment, and reality are the focus points of the last section. By showing your commitment by following through, and communcating better with your spouse is going to make everyone a lot happier.

Good luck and go out to read the book today. It is wonderful, and if you do have financial or communication problems than this book is especially for you. Like I have already said, I was surprised that I found things that I could work on in my relationship. We get along really well on communication and financial decisions. But we have goals, and I am excited to start them out right and stay committed!

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63 Responses to “You Paid How Much for That?”

  1. Amberly says:

    I think that my husband and I would LOVE this book!!!!

  2. Tessa B says:

    I just want to a RS activity last night and they talked about budgeting. This book would work great with that!!!

  3. Jessica Williams says:

    I can always use help with this!!

  4. Amy says:

    How to date with no babysitter money on a budget.

  5. Lorraine says:

    Pay tithing and put some in savings first.

  6. Desiree Wood says:

    Set up an account with Mint.com to keep track of finances.

  7. MaryBeth says:

    My best advice is do it together!

  8. Melinda T says:

    I was just gonna say what MaryBeth said! :D My other advice is to listen to each other and compromise.

  9. Kelly says:

    Make a budget, but don’t feel like you have to “reach” it– if you don’t spend all the money you’ve allotted for something, that’s a good thing!! Don’t try and spend last minute so you don’t “miss out” on the spending!

  10. Jessie K says:

    My best advice regarding finance is think about *why* you argue about finances and then find solutions to rectify that. Our finances have gotten to the point where my husband has to spend huge amounts of money for his work (he owns an owner/operator so he has to pay all of his own fuel and repairs) and our daily household expenses fall into the cracks and get forgotten about. We created separate accounts that have both of our names on them, but he’s in charge of, and spends the money from, one and I’m in charge of, and spend the from, the other. We each save what we can from “our” accounts. We feel this has made it less stressful for both of us because we each have our own spending and saving styles. He keeps a running “approximate” amount in his head and I like to see exactly what we have on paper.

  11. Crady says:

    My advice: compromise. And never buy something more than $100 without consulting your spouse first.

  12. Camie Coles says:

    What has always worked for us is we have separate bank accounts. He has his, I have mine. And we have it worked out who will pay for what, for example, when we go out he pays, but groceries and everyday crap is out of mine. It worked better when I was working outside the home, but we rarely fight about money and it works for us!

  13. Karen says:

    My advice is to ask, “Do I need it? Or, do I just want it?” If it is a “need” and you don’t have the finances for it, save up the money and pay cash for it DON’T put it on a credit card. PLAN, PLAN, PLAN ahead!

  14. Kelly says:

    Don’t forget to take time and effort to teach children about money (where it comes from, how much things cost, savings accounts, credit cards, how it all works!). It is less stressful on our marriage and family as a whole when kids aren’t begging for things all the time. Our kids know now that when they get money, 10% goes to tithing, 40% goes into long term savings (bank account) (also, they are young and don’t really know that that’s a lot yet!), and 50% they save short term for things they want to buy (piggy bank).

  15. Meagan K says:

    I am a newlywed and my husband and I haven’t really found our “financial” groove. I have attempted budgeting, but because I am in school and my husband is bringing in the majority of our income, there is some resistance to budgeting. The best thing that we have decided on is to pick a debt and pay it. We are working on paying off some debt from the wedding and we are slowly but surely paying off each debt we have.

  16. Kasey L says:

    The best advice is to make a budget together and follow it! Only spend what you can afford :)

  17. Shelby says:

    Best advice for finances? For me, it’s listen to my Mom. She is wonderful and have been through so much, so I know to trust her!

  18. Aimee Jongejan says:

    My best advice for handling finances in marriage? 3 things: whats mine is yours and vice versa – none of this having two accounts nonsence, creates too much divisio4n and 2: if you’re going to share you MUST communicate about purchases – decide on an amount $50? $100? Whatever your limit is – this is the limit that you must talk about before you cross the line (and this goes also for creating a budget together) and 3: financial transparencty and communication!!

  19. The best advice I have is I get cash out of the bank on payday. I budget tight and I don’t spend ones or change. We cash in the ones and change for special date nights! After a while, you don’t even miss it, really! I keep our ones in a fun cookie jar in our living room- decor with a hidden meaning and we know we’re working for something and can see the money adding up!

  20. Spend less than you make

  21. Kaytee Stice says:

    Sit down with your hubby and budget together!

  22. Dee Ann Hernandez says:

    Finance tip: Always communicate with your spouse about purchases! Don’t ever hide anything that you spend! Keep a log of all monies coming in and going out and stick to your budget as best you can!

  23. SAmcrane says:

    I can always learn something new! :-)

  24. Karen says:

    I can always get help on budgeting better and what husband wouldm’t love that his wife is gettting great advice to follow

  25. Rachael says:

    My best advice for finances is to actually talk to your spouse about it and don’t spend more than you make!


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