You Paid How Much for That?

Marriage books aren’t really my thing, as I tend to think it might be a waste of my time. I thought the title of this book was intriguing, but the size of the book was overwhelming! I kept putting it off to the side, thinking about reading it later. All I have to say is WOW! It was far better than I expected. I even got my husband involved in some of the ideas and questions that were posed. I would totally recommend this book to anyone and everyone. It really captures the essence of marriage on so many levels.

Don’t let the title fool you, as this book doesn’t only talk about money issues. It digs so much deeper and allows the reader to really assess everything about their relationship. It really separates the man from the woman. You will understand what your partner thinks, and feels through so many fantastic examples, figures, and statistics. There are four authors who have different voices and make this book a real winner.

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Β This book can be for anyone who is a relationship. It really touches on things that matter to every relationship. Finances go much deeper than I ever imagined. But it also makes a big deal about communicating with your partner, and sets it up for you to learn how to communicate to get along and be happier. They have made it easier to navigate by separating it into 4 sections:

1. Invisible Forces: This section allows you to see where some problems may start and how both partners have very valid points to their though process. It even includes a great quiz to try out with your spouse. The answers were very surprising. I also found myself thinking about how there are things that I can do better at in my own finances.

2. Now that we understand, what do we do? The ideas seem endless, and the best thing about this book, it that it gives you food for thought. There were lots of little things that made me stop to think about. I was able to skim through some areas, but found myself dragged back by the awesome examples and research that they had to make their points valid.

3. Show Us the Money: Start saving, learn how to stay out of debt or get out of debt, and investing. All of the information that seems to be overwhelming and not taught very often in life. These skills are a great skill to take into your relationship and start on right away. This would also be great to read, to freshen on all of these topics. I had a lot of oh yeah moments, and am excited to say that Brent and I made some goals of our own thanks to this book!

4. Finding Your Target: Commitment, and reality are the focus points of the last section. By showing your commitment by following through, and communicating better with your spouse is going to make everyone a lot happier.

Good luck and go out to read the book today. It is wonderful, and if you do have financial or communication problems than this book is especially for you. Like I have already said, I was surprised that I found things that I could work on in my relationship. We get along really well on communication and financial decisions. But we have goals, and I am excited to start them out right and stay committed!

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About the Author: Lisa P.

I love my family and enjoy all of the little things. My husband is my best friend and we enjoy doing many things together. We love trips, playing games, watching movies, and hanging out with the kids. I enjoy crafting, taking pictures, and being outdoors.

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  1. Make a budget, but don’t feel like you have to “reach” it– if you don’t spend all the money you’ve allotted for something, that’s a good thing!! Don’t try and spend last minute so you don’t “miss out” on the spending!

  2. My best advice regarding finance is think about *why* you argue about finances and then find solutions to rectify that. Our finances have gotten to the point where my husband has to spend huge amounts of money for his work (he owns an owner/operator so he has to pay all of his own fuel and repairs) and our daily household expenses fall into the cracks and get forgotten about. We created separate accounts that have both of our names on them, but he’s in charge of, and spends the money from, one and I’m in charge of, and spend the from, the other. We each save what we can from “our” accounts. We feel this has made it less stressful for both of us because we each have our own spending and saving styles. He keeps a running “approximate” amount in his head and I like to see exactly what we have on paper.

  3. What has always worked for us is we have separate bank accounts. He has his, I have mine. And we have it worked out who will pay for what, for example, when we go out he pays, but groceries and everyday crap is out of mine. It worked better when I was working outside the home, but we rarely fight about money and it works for us!

  4. My advice is to ask, “Do I need it? Or, do I just want it?” If it is a “need” and you don’t have the finances for it, save up the money and pay cash for it DON’T put it on a credit card. PLAN, PLAN, PLAN ahead!

  5. Don’t forget to take time and effort to teach children about money (where it comes from, how much things cost, savings accounts, credit cards, how it all works!). It is less stressful on our marriage and family as a whole when kids aren’t begging for things all the time. Our kids know now that when they get money, 10% goes to tithing, 40% goes into long term savings (bank account) (also, they are young and don’t really know that that’s a lot yet!), and 50% they save short term for things they want to buy (piggy bank).

  6. I am a newlywed and my husband and I haven’t really found our “financial” groove. I have attempted budgeting, but because I am in school and my husband is bringing in the majority of our income, there is some resistance to budgeting. The best thing that we have decided on is to pick a debt and pay it. We are working on paying off some debt from the wedding and we are slowly but surely paying off each debt we have.

  7. My best advice for handling finances in marriage? 3 things: whats mine is yours and vice versa – none of this having two accounts nonsence, creates too much divisio4n and 2: if you’re going to share you MUST communicate about purchases – decide on an amount $50? $100? Whatever your limit is – this is the limit that you must talk about before you cross the line (and this goes also for creating a budget together) and 3: financial transparencty and communication!!

  8. The best advice I have is I get cash out of the bank on payday. I budget tight and I don’t spend ones or change. We cash in the ones and change for special date nights! After a while, you don’t even miss it, really! I keep our ones in a fun cookie jar in our living room- decor with a hidden meaning and we know we’re working for something and can see the money adding up!

  9. Finance tip: Always communicate with your spouse about purchases! Don’t ever hide anything that you spend! Keep a log of all monies coming in and going out and stick to your budget as best you can!

  10. I would love to win this book! The best advice I have is to do your budgeting together. You both should know what is coming in and what is going out each month so that you can plan together. We are still trying to figure out a budget that works for us since starting medical school!

  11. Would love this book! My advice would be to always do the budgeting together! We are still trying to figure out what works for us on our medical school income!

  12. Take care of all of the essentials first, THEN see what you have left over for spending! Keep a budget… make sure you don’t go over your spending limit, no matter what you decide to spend it on. Also, tithe and save before you spend! And communicate with your hubby πŸ™‚

  13. Honesty, honesty, honesty!! Also having a little that is yours for both you and your spouse that you can do what you want with, no explanation needed!!

  14. My best advice for finances is to work together, and don’t make any big purchases without talking about them and waiting at least a day! Be on the same page!

    1. And my best advice would be to create a budget and discuss it between you and your spouse. Make sure both of you agree about the numbers and how to live by it.

  15. My best advice would be to not get credit cards. They are a disaster for spending and falling quickly into debt. I have also found, for my household, it works best if just one of us is in “charge” of the money/bills.

  16. You need to be completely open with your partner. Your incomes and your outgoings need to be clear to both people and big spending decisions need to be made together.

  17. My advice is to hide nothing from each other and save up for what you want. Don’t spend your money as soon as you have it. If you save for large purchases, you’ll appreciate what you have more.

  18. We sit down every Sunday as part of our Couples council and go over finances. It has been so helpful for us to talk things out and go over what was spent in the last week.

  19. That’s why I need this book- I don’t have too much advice. I have heard of people using the ‘only cash’ system and it’s really worked for them. I’ve also heard that you should pay 10% to yourself for savings (something I need to do :o)

  20. Communicating and being open and honest, working as a team to achieve financial goals is key. We are always talking about what expenses came up during the week, which ones we expect the next, our stress levels with money and what we need to adjust and re-evaluate.