Marriage Goals You Can Work On Together This Summer
Summer is the perfect time to slow down, enjoy the warmth, and focus on what matters most—your relationship! Whether you’re looking to reignite that spark, deepen your connection, or just have a little fun together, I’ve got you covered.
Not only do I have eight marriage goals that you can work on together, I’ve created the Summer Marriage Goals Spinner! It’s a playful yet purposeful way to guide you and your sweetheart through intentional connection all season long. With each spin, you’ll uncover a simple goal designed to strengthen your bond—whether that’s through laughter, adventure, deep conversation, or quality time.
Let this be your go-to post (and tool!) for making this summer meaningful, memorable, and full of love.
Table of Contents
- Marriage Goals You Can Work On Together This Summer
- 1. Revive Your Summer Romance
- 2. Be Each Other’s Adventure Buddy
- 3. Level Up Communication
- 4. Boost Physical Health Together
- 5. Create a Summer Sanctuary at Home
- 6. Speak Their Romance Style
- 7. Grow Spiritually or Personally Together
- 8. Capture Your Summer Love Story
- Pick a Goal, Any Goal
- Why Goal Setting Matters for Your Marriage
1. Revive Your Summer Romance
Goal: Rekindle intimacy and emotional connection.
Why this matters: Life gets busy, and romance can slip into the background. But rekindling that spark builds emotional intimacy, increases affection, and reminds you why you fell in love in the first place. Summer’s relaxed pace is perfect for leaning into the fun and flirty side of your marriage again.
Action Plan:
- Schedule Weekly Date Nights: Alternate planning duties and pick themes like “ice cream crawl,” “sunset stroll,” or “childhood favorites.”
- Create a Summer Bucket List: Include romantic (kiss in the rain), playful (mini golf), and personal (read a book together) items.
- Touch Base Daily: Have 10 minutes of uninterrupted conversation or physical affection (hug, kiss, cuddle) each day.
2. Be Each Other’s Adventure Buddy
Goal: Try new things together to break out of routines.
Why this matters: New experiences boost dopamine—the same chemical tied to the early “falling in love” phase. When you try new things together, you build shared memories, laugh more, and grow your friendship. Being playful and spontaneous deepens your bond in surprising ways.
Action Plan:
- Try 3 New Activities: Examples—kayaking, dancing, local cooking class, or hiking a new trail.
- Plan a Day Trip or Weekend Getaway: Choose one new place neither of you has visited.
- Say “Yes” More: Take turns suggesting spontaneous things (late-night swim, food truck date), and agree to say yes at least once a week.
3. Level Up Communication
Goal: Improve the way you talk, listen, and resolve issues.
Why this matters: Good communication is the heartbeat of a strong marriage. By practicing intentional listening and healthy expression, you reduce misunderstandings, feel more connected, and handle challenges with more grace. Summer is a great time to slow down and really hear each other.
Action Plan:
- Pick a Weekly Check-in Time: Use the “Roses and Thorns” method—share one high and one low from the week.
- Use a Communication Challenge Calendar: Each week, focus on one habit (e.g., no interrupting, active listening, expressing appreciation).
- Read or Listen Together: Choose a podcast or book about relationships and discuss over a summer breakfast or walk.
4. Boost Physical Health Together
Goal: Build healthy habits as a team.
Why this matters: When couples support each other’s wellness goals, they grow stronger together—literally and emotionally. Moving your body, eating well, and encouraging each other builds a sense of teamwork and helps you both feel more energized, confident, and connected.
Action Plan:
- Set a Joint Fitness Goal: Train for a 5K, commit to 10,000 steps/day, or do a 30-day yoga challenge.
- Cook 2 Healthy Meals Together Each Week: Make it fun by trying new cuisines or farmer’s market finds.
- Drink More Water Challenge: Compete or encourage each other to hit daily hydration goals.
5. Create a Summer Sanctuary at Home
Goal: Make your space peaceful, playful, and romantic.
Why this matters: Your home should be a place where love feels easy and joy is built in. When you intentionally create a peaceful, fun environment together, it becomes a retreat—not just a to-do list. It also makes quality time more accessible, especially for busy or budget-conscious couples.
Action Plan:
- Decorate a Date-Night-At-Home Spot: Twinkle lights on the patio? Indoor picnic corner? Get creative!
- Declutter One Area Together Weekly: Less stress = more joy. Tackle a drawer, garage corner, or closet.
- Make a Couple’s Summer Playlist: Add songs you both love to set the mood for dinner, chores, or hangouts.
6. Speak Their Romance Style
Goal: Be intentional with how you give and receive love.
Why this matters: We all express and receive love differently. Taking the time to learn—and use—each other’s love language shows that you care in a deeply personal way. Doing this consistently turns small moments into powerful acts of love.
Action Plan:
- Love Language Week: Focus on one partner’s love language per week (rotate!).
- Daily Love Notes or Texts: Sweet, encouraging, or flirty—just make it consistent.
- Acts of Love Jar: Fill a jar with small ideas (rub shoulders, bring coffee, plan a surprise) and draw one daily or weekly.
7. Grow Spiritually or Personally Together
Goal: Deepen your values and shared sense of purpose.
Why this matters: When couples grow together, they avoid growing apart. Whether it’s through faith, gratitude, or personal development, intentional growth builds a shared sense of purpose and keeps your relationship grounded in something bigger than just the day-to-day.
Action Plan:
- Set a Morning or Evening Ritual: Prayer, journaling, meditation, or just a moment of quiet together.
- Do a Gratitude Practice: Share 3 things you’re thankful for each night before bed.
- Serve Together: Find a local cause and volunteer once this summer (soup kitchen, clean-up, fundraiser).
8. Capture Your Summer Love Story
Goal: Be intentional about making and keeping memories.
Why this matters: Memories fade, but moments you capture stay vivid. Documenting your summer love story keeps the focus on joyful connection and gives you something tangible to reflect on when life gets hectic. It’s a beautiful way to celebrate the season—and your love.
Action Plan:
- Start a Summer Scrapbook or Journal: Photos, date night notes, funny quotes—keep it casual and fun.
- Take a “Summer of Us” Selfie Each Week: Same pose, new location!
- Create a Summer Time Capsule: Fill a jar with small mementos (ticket stubs, seashells, love notes) to open later.
Pick a Goal, Any Goal
My Summer Marriage Goals Spinner is here to help you and your spouse set the stage for a season of growth, love, and adventure. Each spin will guide you toward a meaningful goal to focus on this week—whether it’s improving communication, trying something new, or just spending more quality time together.
Ready to get started? Let the wheel decide your next move, and make this summer one to remember!
Spinner instructions: simply tap the wheel, let it spin, and quickly take a screenshot! Whichever goal the arrow lands on is the goal that you and your spouse will focus on for the week.
Why Goal Setting Matters for Your Marriage
Life can get busy, especially during the summer when vacations, family events, and outdoor activities take center stage. That’s why setting intentional marriage goals together is so important. When you take time to focus on your relationship—whether it’s improving communication, building new memories, or simply reconnecting—you create space for growth and deeper connection, even amidst the chaos.
By making these goals a priority, you’re not just strengthening your bond; you’re setting the foundation for a year-round relationship that’s full of love, laughter, and support. So, take a moment, spin the wheel, and make this summer your best season yet!
