10 Secrets For A Happy Marriage
by Carma Sirrine
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I absolutely love it when we get to hear advice from people like Carma who have been married for over 50 years! What an incredible journey these two have been on!! I look forward to that day with my own hubby!! Carma lost her mother at a young age, she has come far, and she wants to share her success, as well as others, with all of you!! She has a very inspiring story and background. What an incredible mother, grandma, friend and I am sure WIFE! 😉
Carma’s book, 10 Secrets For A Happy Marriage, is a very insightful book on other marriages in this day and age. Short stories, of Carma’s friends and family, that share with the reader, the ins-and-outs of ways to create an everlasting marriage. These are stories from real people!! I couldn’t even pick a favorite to share with you. There has to be at least one story in this book that everyone can relate to, with heartfelt ways to show unconditional love to your spouse. My favorite part of the book, chapter 10. The last one, where she shares all her secrets…
Her stories and advice focus on the following topics…
- Relying on the Lord
- Making Decisions Early
- Making Loving Relationships
- Having TOTAL Commitment
- Money Matters
- Lighten Up Your Life
- Having a Good Attitude
- Sharing Thoughts and Feelings
- Remembering the Best Times
These things are just a few of the many important matters we need most to make our relationships last. Carma has been very kind to share this book with us, and to allow us to give not one, but TWO signed copies away to our amazing readers!! So YES, you can own this book yourself!! It would be great for any couple, newly engaged, newly weds… well anyone!!! Hurry and enter, you are missing out!!!
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Subscribed! Marriage tip- take time to laugh and remember tomorrow is a new day.
Communication. Communication. Communication. Talk about everything, but be sure to be respectful. You need to be open and honest with your spouse but do it respectfully.
Oops, already subscribed as well. Sorry, forgot to include that in the first comment.
This book is thoughtfully presented and full of marvelous suggestions and ideas to strenghten your marriage. We gave it to all of our married children.
This is a great book! I love it.
I’ve already subscribed and loving the ideas! when there is a problem you are facing: instead of fighting each other; fight the problem together.
already subscribed, my secret, go on weekly dates no matter how hard it is to find a sitter and leave all the kids. You both need that time together without kids.
I am an official newsletter subscriber. I have only been married for a short time but I have found to not sweat the small stuff…it builds up.
I am “egg-cited” about surprising my husband with a new shirt and tie for easter!!!!!
Already a subscriber! A tip that we use in our marriage is to read the scriptures and pray together every day.
I just subscribed to the newsletter.
And I don’t have any wise advice- I guess that’s why I need a book like this.
And I am egg-cited about dressing up for Easter–especially now that I have my baby girl to dress too!
I am an official newsletter subscriber. The biggest thing I have learned in marriage(and I am no expert at 2 years in) is to try to be interested in some of the things your spouse is. And talk to them about their interests!
i’m EGG-citied about…. seeing my WHOLE family for easter! best time ever!
HA! i also shared the link on fb….buuut i cannot figure out how to get the address for the link to put on here! 😛 nice, huh? i rock!
I am a suscriber! My husband and I always wind down our nights with each other whether it’s catching up on the TIVO or just talking in bed!
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i’m “EGG-cited” about this weekend!!! we get to celebrate Easter, a daughter’s birthday AND have no obligations that take us every directions!! WOOHOOO!!!!!!
I am an “official” newsletter reader!! I shared too!! Would love to know the secrets!!!!
i can VERY happily say i am and have been a subscriber! yay!!
my marriage tip? umm…communication is key!! NEVER assume that he/she knows or even SHOULD know something! (how you feel, want…whatever) i mean how often are you sure of that YOURSELF??! LOL and also when emotions are running high…take a time out. get a level head so you can approach whatever issue calmly without hurting your spouse with hurtful things (and YOU find it easier to listen too) FORGIVE!!!
I am a subscriber! ♥ your site
I am a newsletter subscriber and my husband and I always make time for one another whether it is for a date night out or at home, or just time to talk.
I’m happy because my spouse is such a great dad! He loves his little girls and would do anything to make them (and me!) happy!!
I am eggcited to watch my kids look in their Easter baskets this weekend.
I subscribe to the newsletter! I think one secret is doing the things you know you’re supposed to be doing – having Family Night, Prayer together, Scripture study, etc. Keeping in harmony with the Lord helps you stay in harmony as a couple!
I’m DEFINITELY already subscribed!!
I feel like one of the best things we can do is to tell each other how we’re feeling, no matter what.
But to always laugh and smile with each other, is my favorite. 🙂
I subscribe to your newsletter. My marriage secret is to make time for him every night. Get the kids to bed on time and then enjoy your time together doing whatever.
I posted this giveaway on my private blog and Facebook! Thanks!
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I’m already subscribed! 🙂 My marriage secret is to pray together everyday
Already a subscriber. One marriage secret is a quote I love, “Choose your LOVE, and LOVE your CHOICE!
I already subscribed to the newsletter and when we are in a rough patch, I sit down with a scrapbook I made when my husband and I were dating along with our wedding album. It reminds me that life, love and our relationship is much bigger than any little thing we are arguing about at the moment. Then when we both have had our space, I apologize because there’s never once been a time when I didn’t snap back/first.
I’m “egg-cited” for a girls’ night this week!!!
I’m a subscriber! My tip is to not expect him to read your mind. Tell him!
i already subscribe – my secret: when you are frustrated with your spouse, just think of what you love about them, or why you married them in the first place!
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Already subscribed. One of our “secrets” is always assuming the best! When something is said that comes out negatively we remember that we love and like each other and wouldn’t intentionally hurt each other so don’t take it personally, forgive if we are hurt, and talk it through if needs be
I am EGG-cited about our upcoming anniversary plans!!!
I am EGG-cited about the warm weather that is going to be coming.
I’m a subscriber. My tip is to put your spouse’s needs above your own.
also posted on facebook 🙂
“Love LOVE LOOOOVE the Dating Divas! A website with a ton of fun date ideas! This week there giving away a book. You should go take a look :)”
I subscribe! Be a team—there is strength in unity. Always be there for each other.
I already get the news letters and a secret that I have learned is sometimes the best thing to do is just laugh (when appropriate) rather then get angry/ irritated about something 🙂
I already subscribe. 🙂
My husband loves if I snuggle with him first thing in the morning. I’m not an extremely physical person and once I’m awake I like to get up and get going, but he appreciates it, so we do! He’s happy for the rest of the day!
I’m egg-cited for the Easter egg hunt play group I’m having here at my house on Wednesday! 😉
I subscribe 🙂
A secret – my husband loves to be loved through service –
Somedays it is difficult – and I want to be selfish – but that is never productive!
Subscribed already! I love you ladies!
My marriage advice is to be silly! Do anything that makes you feel like a kid again and laugh away together! 🙂
I am egg-cited that spring is almost here and I can spend time outdoors with my man!
Subscribed- Always say I love you before going to sleep. And never, ever go to bed angry!
I am EGG-cited about seeing my mom and sister this weekend!
I am a subscriber and my marriage advice is to take some time and laugh together. It lightens the load. Get in a wrestling fight and end with a tickle war.
I am EGG-cited about spending time with my 4 day old baby. 🙂
Emailed a shout-out (Hey Did you see the giveaway from Dating Divas? It closes tonight so go check it out!
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Subscribed- I think when we are doing well is when I start thinking of my husband before myself. When I’m selfish it never seems to work
I am a regular newsletter and blog-site reader and love your tips! I can’t wait until my husband and I are together again in June, and this 6 months apart is over, so I can use your dating ideas!!!
I am EGG-cited about…..trying some of your group date ideas, because we have some awesome couple-friends here, and they are perfect for some of the sillier ideas!
And I am also EGG-cited about. this book. I see far too many popular marriage and relationship books written by people who are on their 3rd or 4th marriage! Not confidence inspiring!
My best marriage advice…listen to the meaning behind words from your spouse that feel upsetting. Is he frustrated? Upset about something else? Tired? Before I react, I now put things in context. It has saved me/us from misunderstandings more than once. Where did I learn it? My husband! He did this from the start, and I saw how much better it made our communication!
I am EGG-cited about planning our wedding!!!!! (April 2012) 😉
I am a subscriber!
I’m extra EGG-cited for my birthday in ten days….a temple trip, great food AND retail therapy while our little one gets a special grandma weekend! The best of all worlds!
I’ve been a newsletter subscriber since the first one!
Hmmmmm my very irreverent advice came from a ninety year old woman in my Mom’s childhood ward. “If you must argue, always argue naked. You will either resolve the argument in laughter or in love!”
My own advice is to always pray together as a couple. It’s very hard to not feel cherished and loved when someone is expressing gratitude and concern for you to your Heavenly Father.
I am a newsletter reader and my advice for marriage is to be easy going and spend time together.
I am “egg”sited about my husband taking me to Washington this summer! Looking forward to just some time with him!
I am already a newsletter reader.
The one advice that my grandfather said to us when I got married was to Never go to bed angry, and always keep the other person in mind, not to be selfish. this has been great advice. He and grandma have been married going on 64 years, I think they know what they are talking about!
I am a newsletter subscriber. One thing I try to remember in my marriage is that my hubby never wants to hurt me. If he says or does something that seems hurtful, I try to take a step back and figure out what is really going on. Usually I just misunderstood what happened. I know he loves me and I never question that.
I”m a follower and one of my secrets is forgiving one another at all times!
Give him attention everyday!
I am egg-cited about trying some of your anniversary ideas for my husband in July.
I subscribe to your newsletter. My advice on marriage is follow God’s advice and help your husband try not to lead him.
I am egg-cited about the month of birthdays starting this week at our house.
I am a newsletter subscriber. One of the best secrets to a happy marriage is spending time together.
I am a subscriber finally!!
Also..a few things my hubby and I do :
We play board games…a lot…like everyday (we bet out change on it too so it makes it that much better if you win!!)
Also, we have been on a date every single friday night (except when I was on bed rest and right after I had baby Jack). Its so great to just be the two of us and hang out! love him!
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I finally subscribed! I’ve been wanting to do it, but everytime I get on the website I get to side trackd by all the fun new posts!!
A few things my husband and I do together that Ithink really helps us is:
We play board games all the time…like daily (we also bet our change on it so it’s that much better when you when!!)
We also havegone on a date every single friday night since we met! It is so great to just hang out alone!! Love him!
I am an official newsletter reader.
My advice would be to remember to do nice things for each other. I love being able to make lunch for my husband multiple times a week. I know it is something so little but he enjoys my cooking and he enjoys the time he gets to spend with our son while I am cooking.
I’m an official newsletter reader and I think that a great secret to a happy marriage is to go to bed together, take the time to read something together before falling asleep. Some of the most memorable (and often funniest) moments in my marriage have been the quality time we spend right before going to sleep!
I am a subscriber and my piece of advice is I do acts of service for my husband everyday and it makes him happy and he is a great husband in return.
I posted on facebook!
I am an official newsletter reader! I love all of the creative ideas!
My advice is to have a date night or have time together. It doesn’t have to be all lovey dovey or super special. Just take time for yourselves as a couple and talk. When you have kids sometimes that’s all you talk about is the kids, so talk about other things.
Yay! I’m a subscriber!
E-mail subscriber.
My advice would be to remember why you fell in love with him.
(Posted this on facebook). I don’t know how to share the link to it though… ?
I highly recommend ya’ll check this out. It is SUCH a cute blog, filled with FUN ideas for dating your spouse (or just fun dates in general). They are always doing cute giveaways. One of these days I hope to win. 😀
I have officially subscribed to your newsletter! I’m surprised I hadn’t until now. I’ve been missing out!
One of our many secrets to a happy marriage would be to never put each other down, even in joking, and especially never ever in public. We never call each other names (stupid..etc).
I just subscribed; this giveaway made me want to so bad!
My marriage advice is to brag on him any chance you get, to your friends, to HIS friends, even to family who already know him! It’s SO good for him to hear you talk about him that way.
I subscribe… and my marriage advice? Do things together… even if we’re doing our own things we try to do them in the same room!
I am a newsletter reader and on of my favorite marriage secrets is to ALWAYS put each other’s needs first!
why yes, I am a newsletter subscriber!
One bit of advice for a happy husband and a happy marriage is to ask him his opinion and advice and really listen then follow it. Then, after you have followed it and things have worked out, tell him how grateful you are to have married such a great advisor. My H is amazing in how he deals with people so whenever I have a potentially awkward or difficult interpersonal interaction looming I ask him what he would do. When it is a situation where I have to handle something on the spot I try to ask myself what he would do and then do it. When I share what I did I tell him that I tried to do what he would do.
Too often we wives don’t give our husbands’ ideas the respect they deserve. Just because he would do things differently doesn’t mean he would do them wrong. I have found that where I over-think he just deals and like I said, he is terrific at it.
One of my favorite secrets is laughing together 🙂
I tweeted. https://twitter.com/dezroute/status/59663633503887360
I’m a subscriber. My secret would be COMMUNICATE! And it’s taken me a long time to slowly start getting better at it, but I can’t keep assuming he knows how I feel or what I’m thinking.
I’m a subscriber!
And I’ve got two pieces of advice. #1 Tell your husband you love him every day, sincerely. Not just at the end of a phone call or before leaving. Make an effort. I always say it before bed. #2 Continue to date. Take time to be together just the two of you (the reason why I love this blog!) Great giveaway; thanks!
I do subscribe to the newsletter. And my best marriage advice is probably to learn humility. It’s my biggest issue personally but when I have the smarts to say, “I’m sorry, I was in the wrong” in the beginning of the fight (when I realise I was wrong) instead of at the end of a fight (when I’ve actually finished being angry) it makes a HUGE difference.
I am already a subscriber. A good thing for our marriage has been to find ways to focus on the positive- instead of getting mad because he put something away in the wrong place thank him for cleaning. Also, pick your battles. There will always be times where you disagree. Choose which ones are worth getting upset over and which are not.
Of course I’m already a newsletter subscriber! I love this site! 🙂
I am actually just engaged currently- and we are trying hard now to set up our marriage for success. We regularly sit down and just talk about how our relationship is going, and how we can improve something for the other person. It is great to just check in and make sure we are on the right track.
I hope I win! This book looks so cute!
I am a subscriber already and I don’t know how to repost my post on facebook, but this is what it says and my FB page. 😉
best blog ever! Has great ideas for dates, and how to have fun with the hubby!
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My Secret is communication and shear Honesty. simple as that.
I am an official newsletter reader! One of the best secrets i have learned is open communication. Don’t hide your true feelings. The only way to solve or fix problems is to lay it all out on the table so you know how the other person is truly feeling. Prayer is also very important!
I am already a subscriber! 🙂 And one ofour marriage secrets is to always put each other first-no matter what! 🙂
I am already a subscriber!! I love this site!! 🙂 -Janiel
I get your newsletters. My husband and I always try to find time to talk. And we find time to spend with just each other. Those two things are so important to us.
I am subscribed to, and read your newsletters!
We don’t have any profound secrets to our happy marriage, but something I keep thinking of is our conversations we have when we have time to just hang out. Those times that we aren’t talking about work, kids, or school. We will usually get on the subject of music when we were certain ages, favorite tv shows we had as kids, or funny things we did with our siblings. Just when you think you know everything about your spouse, those little conversations give fun little insights of how they were before you ever met and are always so fun!
I am a newsletter reader!
One of the important “secrets” we’ve found in our marriage is always telling each other what we are thinking. I don’t expect my hubby to just guess what I’m thinking and I won’t pretend to know what he’s thinking. Also, if we are struggling with something (say I feel like I am in need of some extra attention), we aren’t afraid to talk to our spouse about it. We trust each other with the truth and our whole hearts.
I am a subscriber to your newsletter! 🙂 One of the secretes to a happy marriage for my husband and me is to always share with each other how our day has been. This seems so small, but I always feel better after I can share the events of the day with him and vice versa.
I am a newsletter subscriber and reader. Prayer is my secret to a happy marriage!
I just became a subscriber even though I have had you on my google reader and on facebook. As I read over the other entries I have wondered what has kept my marriage strong. He is a full time student in Dental school and it has been torture, not on our marriage but on the fact that I LOVE to have him around and he can’t as much as he would like because he has to study so much. I think a ‘secret’ is to make your spouse your best friend. I make time every night to sit on the couch and talk to my best friend while he studies… it is weird but it works for us
I am a weekly newsletter subscriber and reader- love it! And a small secret to a happy marriage- don’t sweat the small stuff- play Rock, paper, Scissors to make those little decisions 🙂
I am already a subscriber to your newsletter so we are covered there. I think that there are two big secrects to our happy marriage and those two are we always pray together first thing each morning, just the two of us, it sets the tone for our day. And the second is Date Night at least on night a week. It doesn’t need to big or even a money spender but that time is so important to let eachother know that you mean to eachother what you did in the begining.
I am a new subscriber for about two weeks now. My niece shared your FB page and I love it. I cant wait to use some of the ideas once my husband returns from his deployment overseas. And trying my best to tweak some for our long distance skype dates. 🙂 A couple of our secrets to a happy marriage is NO TV in the bedroom and we always make time to agree on a monthly spending plan together a week before the start of a new month.
I shared via facebook & twitter.
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I already am a subscriber to your newsletter! 🙂
One marriage secret: Always make time for yourselves as a couple. Not sitting in front of the tv, but talking to each other. Communication, brings you closer together!
I am a newsletter subscriber. Being a military wife I had to learn to accept that my hubby can leave at a moments notice and had to learn not to be angry with him about it-it has helped us out big time!
I have been reading you gals in my Reader but am now officially a subscriber! A tidbit of advice someone gave me that has challenged and encouraged me – I am my husband’s helper, not the other way around. I don’t need to constantly ask him for help or become frustrated if he doesn’t automatically help me. I was made to help him and should have my life ordered in a way that makes this possible every day.
Just posted to FB and to Twitter, though I’m not sure how to get the link-back. Sorry ’bout that.
Well, I’m already a subscriber so I’m covered there. And taking the time for a date night is definitely one of the secrets for our happy marriage! Aside from that, though, our best secret is laughing together, especially at stupid or silly things we do, or our children when they find creative new ways to misbehave. Laughing instead of getting upset makes it a chance to bond instead of grow apart. =)