Yes, Sex Starts in the Morning

They say foreplay starts in the kitchen… but I’d argue it starts even earlier. 😉 This intentional date night is all about reconnecting emotionally before the lights go out. With simple acts of service, heartfelt conversations, and a little flirty fun, you’ll both feel more loved—and more in the mood. Ready to turn up the heat all day long? Let’s go!

Service During the Day Pays Off in a Sexy Way!

Let’s be real—have you ever found yourself feeling totally disconnected from your spouse, emotionally and intimately, and not even sure where to begin fixing it? Because same. It can feel overwhelming, lonely, and honestly… kind of desperate.

That’s exactly why I created this date night challenge. I wanted something that could help us reconnect emotionally and bring back the sparks in the bedroom—slowly, intentionally, and without the pressure of needing to figure it all out on our own.

Wait… Sex Starts in the Morning?

You might be wondering why a date night focused on emotional connection is called Sex Starts in the Morning. Fair question! 😉

Here’s the thing: when we feel supported, heard, appreciated, and engaged throughout the day, physical intimacy becomes so much more natural—something we want instead of something that feels like just another to-do. And as intimacy increases, so does emotional closeness. It’s a beautiful, reinforcing cycle!

During this date, I wanted to create a safe space for us to check in—emotionally, physically, mentally—and start knocking down any barriers that might be keeping us apart. Because once we’re talking openly and kindly, the rest? Let’s just say it flows a whole lot easier. 😉

And don’t worry—I’m not leaving you to figure this out alone! The printables will walk you through every step, and I’ll be cheering you on the whole way.

So… What’s Included?

This printable pack comes with everything you need to make the date night meaningful and fun:

• An Envelope
• An Invitation (in two sizes!)
• An Ideas Chart for Him
• An Ideas Chart for Her
• A Household Needs Tracking Chart
• A 21-Day Challenge Tracker

All you have to do is print, cut, glue, and go! It’s that simple.

How to Make It a Date

Start by deciding who’s doing the inviting. If you and your spouse take turns planning date nights, then whoever’s up this week? Boom—your job’s done. 😉 Hand off the invitation and pick a calm, quiet time to sit down together without distractions.

Once you’re both settled, take a deep breath and express why you’re doing this. I know it can feel awkward, especially if things have been tense. But leading with love and saying, “I want us to be closer again,” can melt some serious walls.

Pro tip: Butter them up with their favorite treat! Snacks make everything easier, especially the slightly uncomfortable stuff.

Let’s Talk Through the Printables

Now it’s time to dig into the good stuff—the “Ideas for Him” and “Ideas for Her” charts. These are designed to help you both understand and communicate what you need to feel emotionally connected. You’ll fill out:

✨ How I Need Support

Life is hard. Marriage gives us a built-in teammate, but when one person starts feeling like they’re doing more than their share? That resentment creeps in fast.

Instead of splitting things 50/50, I try to think of it as 100/100. What can I give today? And what support do I need in return? Whether it’s someone else folding the laundry, giving me solo time to breathe, or simply helping with the kids—it all matters. You’ll list it out and then use the Household Needs chart to divvy up weekly tasks like the power couple you are.

✨ How I Feel Heard

Oof—this one hit me. How many times have I nodded along without really listening? We all do it. But when we take the time to actively hear each other, it changes everything.

So think about what makes you feel heard. Eye contact? Follow-up questions? Phones put down during convos? Write it all out and share!

✨ How My Partner Engages Me

Roommates do chores. Couples engage. I don’t want to just coexist with my spouse—I want connection! Think about what helps you feel engaged emotionally: late-night chats, shared hobbies, a quick dance in the kitchen… you get the idea.

✨ How I Feel Appreciated

Feeling seen and appreciated? That’s magic. What makes you feel valued? A thank-you note? A little extra cuddle time? Flowers just because? Name it. Claim it.

Once you’ve both filled out your charts, switch and share. Use “I” statements (not “you always…” 🙅‍♀️) and keep it loving. This isn’t a complaint fest—it’s a chance to build each other up.

Let’s Get to the Sex Starts in the Morning Challenge!

Finally, bring out the Sex Starts in the Morning Challenge tracker. Stick it somewhere you’ll both see daily—fridge, bathroom mirror, wherever. Each day, you’ll check off when:

✅ One of your emotional connection ideas is completed
✅ Household chore(s) are knocked out

You can even set rewards for completing a full week or the whole challenge! (Or just enjoy the ahem natural rewards that come from showing up fully for each other 😉)

Seriously, give this challenge a try. I’ve seen firsthand how little things—daily service, intentional conversations, thoughtful effort—can completely transform how connected I feel to my spouse. When I put 100% into my marriage during the day, I’ve definitely noticed my spouse putting 100% into the bedroom.

So go ahead—love loud, serve big, and flirt often. Because when sex starts in the morning… the night ends very well. 😘