October 23, 2014

10 Reasons Why You Should Spoil Your Spouse


Make Your Spouse Your Priority

They are adorable, they are LOUD, they are so easy to shop for, they are PERSISTANT, they are sweet, they love TREATS…. there are a million reasons we spoil our children. If your family is in a place where the children rule the roost then you have GOT to put the brakes on that!! Your kids, as wonderful and special as they are, should not be your top priority. Your spouse, that amazing person who holds your heart, needs to know that they are your #1 now and always. That’s right, you should be spoiling your SPOUSE! 

If this is lacking in your marriage right now then today is the day to refocus your energy onto the most important person in your life! The Dating Divas have come up with 10 marriage-strengthening reasons to spoil your spouse, not your kids.

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We have all envied them- those couples that are ‘newlywed-in-love’ with well-behaved children. How is it that they can be so happy?? Are they even real?? Well, we are here to tell ya that YES, they’re real, and that CAN be YOU! And The Dating Divas think we’ve figured out the secret to their success! With all of our marriages combined, the Divas total years and YEARS of experience, and if there’s one thing we know will make your marriage stronger, it’s spoiling your husband! We aren’t talking about worshipping the ground he walks on and being a servant to his every need, but we ARE talking about refocusing your energy from always doing everything for your kids, to doing things for YOUR MAN. We guarantee you are going to want all the details on this… so read on!

1.  Your Wedding Day:  Remember, your family started with your marriage to your spouse {not the day your first child was born}. He is the reason behind it all! So while the kids may be the frosting- he is still the CAKE! 

2. Broadcast Your Love: One of the BEST things you can do for your children is to let them see you LOVE their father. Strong marriages make strong families. Your children need the security of a loving family far more than toys or treats or even attention! So kiss in front of your children. Let them see you holding hands, snuggling together on the couch, and going out on dates.

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3. Set the Stage: Spoiling your spouse gives children an example of what a great marriage should look like. When you treat your spouse with kindness, courtesy, and love - your children will see that.  They will long for a marriage like their parents have and not settle for anything less! Take the time to learn about each other’s Love Language. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts is a fantastic book to read if you haven’t already. When you spoil your spouse, do it in a way that will show them you truly care and are thinking about their needs.

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4. Raise Me Up: As a parent, you are in large part responsible for how your children turn out. The pressure is on and you don’t want {ahem} to raise your child to always feel entitled. But you already KNOW your husband turned out great!! {Thank you mother-in-laws all over the world!!} He’s already “raised” – so you don’t have to worry about spoiling him {wink!}

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5. What Goes Around: As you take the time to spoil your spouse, you will also reap the rewards! Taking your wife on a date means a fun time for you, too! Enjoy dinner, movies, great conversations, and fun activities. Buying a special gift? How convenient that box of chocolates have so many pieces in it {wink!}. Go with the golden rule on this one and treat your spouse EVEN BETTER than you’d like to be treated. Though you shouldn’t be spoiling your spouse with the intention of getting anything out of it, more likely than not, they are going to reciprocate the love. :) It’s a win-win for you both.

6. Unexpected: Spoiling your husband also helps get both of you out of your consistent routine. Spoiling your children, however can turn into a routine too quickly! It’s easy to get caught up in to-do lists and managing all the details of everyday life. Surprise them with a little things frequently. Taking time to spoil each other helps you refocus on what’s truly important! Your Marriage!

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7. Together Again: One day your sweet babies will grow up and move out. They will have their OWN lives to live. Your spouse is going to be with you through it all. By showering your spouse with love and kindness your entire marriage, you will keep your love strong regardless of whether or not you have children in your home. You don’t want to feel like you need to RE-connect when you become empty nesters, so keep the love alive right now! 

8. Be Their Lover: Children rely on you to set boundaries and restrictions. It’s part of your job to discipline as a parent. You are NOT, however, your spouse’s mother. You are his LOVER! So forget the stress of teaching lessons and just LOVE your spouse… unconditionally! 

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9. Bring On The Romance: Spoiling your children can lead to self-entitlement and teaches selfishness. Spoiling your spouse can lead to romance and is one way of being self-less. Your kind words, sweet notes, little treats, special nights out… all of those can lead to romance and strengthen the bond the two of you share.

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10.  Stand the Test of Time: Spoiling your husband shows him that you still feel the same for him regardless of how long you’ve been together and what you’ve gone through. Take the time to get dressed up for date night with the ‘man of your dreams’ , remember  important events and milestones together and celebrate them. Let your spouse know that you are thankful for every single day you’ve been together and your marriage will stand the test of time!

If you want some fantastic suggestions on ways to spoil your spouse the ways that they like to be loved, then sign up for The Dating Diva’s Newsletter and get our FREE 7 Day of Love Program —-> check out our right sidebar to get in on that!

*A special thanks to my cousin Kari with Meka Studios for being such an amazing photographer and sharing some of her pictures with us!!*

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