Romance Your Spouse Through Their Love Language

Find Your Spouse’s Love Language Gift for Valentine’s Day

This Valentine’s Day, you can skip the chocolate and roses because we’ve got something even better: gift ideas that speak directly to your spouse’s love language and heart!

We all have a love language and give and receive love in different ways. Sometimes, our “love tank” can be a little low if our love language hasn’t been spoken in a while. Why not surprise your spouse with something that will not only romance them on the day of love but will also fill up their love tank?

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What Are Love Languages?

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five love languages. These love language types determine how we best receive love. The five languages are:

1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Physical touch
4. Receiving gifts
5. Acts of service

You and your spouse may have different love language types. If you don’t know what your love language is, don’t worry! It’s easy to figure out. Here is a quiz that will help you get started on your journey to understanding each other’s love language.

You can also read the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Dr. Gary Chapman.

How to Spoil Your Spouse Through Their Love Language

While chocolate and flowers are always appreciated (hint, hint!), it’s always nice to receive a well-thought-out gift, especially if that gift is geared towards a love language.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner, we thought it would be the perfect opportunity to show you how you can shower and spoil your spouse with love on the day of love…all through targeting their love language!

Consider this your ultimate guide for doing just that. Keep reading, and be sure to pay special attention to the gift ideas that fall under your spouse’s love language category!

And remember: these gift ideas can be used for BOTH spouses. If you are the husband, these ideas would be perfect for your wife, and vice-versa!

Gift Ideas for the Words of Affirmation Spouse

While words of affirmation may seem like the easiest love language, it’s actually not. You’d think that saying “I love you” would be enough, but sometimes words of affirmation spouses (including this Diva!) need a little more. Here are five romantic ideas that will make those words of affirmation spouses feel oh-so-special this Valentine’s Day.

• Write a song, letter, or poem about the love you have for your spouse. Even better, include specific details like what you love about your spouse, what you appreciate about them, your favorite thing about their personality, etc.
• Write sweet love notes onto pink or red sticky notes, and then arrange the sticky notes in the shape of a heart on their mirror.
• Starting now, keep a gratitude journal of the things you are grateful for about your spouse, and do your best to write 5-10 things in it daily. If possible, make each item on the list different and specific. For example, “I’m grateful that you took care of the grocery shopping today,” or “I’m grateful that you cooked a delicious dinner tonight.” By Valentine’s Day, you will have over a month’s worth of gratitude for your spouse to read!
• Write a bunch of “letters for” or “open when” letters for your spouse. Gift all the letters to them on Valentine’s Day, and tell them to open the letters whenever the need arises. Depending on how many letters you write, this is a gift that they can enjoy all year long!
• Create a sweet video using VidDay. Simply send an invitation to contribute to the video to those who love your spouse, or the video can just include you! Once everyone records a small video, it’ll upload into the final product for your sweetie. You can customize it with music, a theme, and text cards! No complicated editing is required.

Gift Ideas for the Quality Time Spouse

Life gets busy, and quality time is a MUST for every relationship, more so for those who need their love tank filled primarily with quality time. Valentine’s Day is a great day to show your spouse that you are willing to give them your time! Here are five gift ideas for those spouses who crave quality time with you:

• Sign up for some sort of class to take together. Some examples include cooking, baking, pottery, dance, and music. This class can be taken on Valentine’s Day, or you can make a cute voucher with the class details to be redeemed at a later date.
• Book a romantic couple’s massage.
• Take your sweetie to a romantic picnic for lunch or dinner. If possible, make sure it’s just the two of you! If you have to bring the kids, consider going to a park where the kids can play while you and your valentine enjoy each other’s company. Or you can have an indoor candlelit picnic after the kids go to bed! This cute picnic basket will make the perfect accessory!
• Surprise your spouse with a Valentine’s Day staycation. Check out this list of the best staycation locations in the US if you need help choosing where to go!
• Plan a romance-movie date night for just the two of you.

Gift Ideas for the Physical Touch Spouse

Spouses who receive love through physical touch aren’t just looking for sex. In fact, most physical-touch spouses will say that holding hands, cuddling, or even just taking a shower together will help fill their love tank. However, Valentine’s Day is all about kicking things up a notch, so we’ve listed four sensual ideas for filling their love tank with or without sex!

• Plan a Sexy Escape Room for Two. This escape room is ultra sexy and guarantees that you and your spouse will end the evening on cloud nine!
• Take your spouse for a romantic nighttime walk in their favorite place. Make sure you are holding hands, linking arms, or draping your arm around their waist or shoulder the entire time!
• Give your spouse a sensual massage or hot stone massage at home. You can give the best of both worlds with this massage kit, and you can even set up a massage table!
• Gift a DIY spa kit to your spouse. They can use this kit on Valentine’s Day or any day of the year! For an even better experience, join them! You could even surprise your spouse with matching robes to wear during your couple’s spa day.

Gift Ideas for the Receiving Gifts Spouse

The spouses who prefer to receive gifts as a form of love may seem tricky to shop for, and sometimes they can be. We’ve done our best to find meaningful gifts that nearly every gift-receiver will love, husband or wife!

• A personalized date necklace. This necklace can have any important date stamped onto it. Some examples include the day you both met, the day you got engaged, the date of your wedding, the date you became parents, etc. Basically, you can use any meaningful date that you and your spouse want to remember! For the men, check out these personalized date key chains.
• Flowers. Yes, we did say you could skip the flowers and chocolates this year, but sometimes that’s what is preferred, and that’s okay! We have a list of 15 of the BEST flower companies that you can use for Valentine’s Day (or any day of the year!). You can make the flowers even more meaningful by choosing your spouse’s favorite flower, writing a sweet note or poem, or pairing the flowers with a romantic date night.
• A custom star map print. These star maps are so cool! You can personalize each map with both of your names and a significant date in your relationship (the day you met, got engaged, got married, etc.). The print will then be an exact replica of what the sky looked like that night. How romantic?!
• A custom faceless portrait of you and your valentine. These are so trendy right now! Each print would look great as an art piece in your home.

Gift Ideas for the Acts of Service Spouse

Contrary to popular belief, spouses who receive love through acts of service don’t necessarily need grand acts performed. Something as simple as taking out the trash or even making the bed in the morning helps! However, gifting an act of service might seem a little harder to pull off. That’s why we’ve come up with five simple yet romantic ways to fill your sweetie’s love tank through acts of service!

• A customizable coupon book that you can fill with different acts of service to perform for your spouse. Here are a few ideas: taking out the trash, filling an empty gas tank, mowing the lawn, folding the laundry, making the bed, dusting the house, and cooking dinner.
• Breakfast in bed, complete with a breakfast tray. In 2024, Valentine’s Day falls on a Wednesday, so if breakfast in bed doesn’t work due to work schedules, consider postponing until the weekend. Or you can have comfy clothes/pajamas, a few movies, maybe some books, your spouse’s favorite drink, and a snack ready for when your spouse gets home from work (or when you get home from work if your spouse is already at home). You can then tell your spouse to hop into bed to relax, and you can bring them dinner in bed!
• Wake up a little earlier on Valentine’s Day and take over some of your spouse’s daily load of tasks before you head to work or before your spouse leaves for work. You can set out their clothes for the day, pack a lunch, get a slow cooker dinner going, or start warming up/cooling down their car.
• Allow your spouse to take some “Me Time” while you take on some of their daily routine.
• Gift your spouse a monthly cleaning service, car wash membership, or even a grocery subscription like HelloFresh or Blue Apron. There are so many different subscriptions/services that can easily replace some of your spouse’s daily tasks and make their life a lot easier!

We certainly hope this list of love language gift ideas helps you plan an unforgettable Valentine’s Day for your spouse and lets them know just how much you adore them! 

Happy Valentine’s Day from the Divas!