Teaching Teen Dating Skills

Dating 101: Lessons on Teen Dating

Help your kids develop great dating habits with this mini dating school! 

Here on the Dating Divas blog, we focus on dating within marriage, and strongly believe that dating your spouse is crucial to your relationship! That’s what we are ALL about! We know that good dating habits are super important, so why not start teaching them young? Your teens need to know how to treat a date with respect, engage in conversations, plan fun activities and have good manners, all skills that are needed when dating after marriage too!

Teen Dating School

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To help you out in teaching about teen dating, we’ve teamed up with designer Leslie of Nina Bean Designs to create some bright, fun printables for you! They include a frameable Family Dating Rules printable, Dating Practice Game and a darling Dating 101 Report Card to let your son or daughter know they have passed! Leslie’s bright colors and fun designs are perfect to get your teen excited about The Dating 101 mini-school!

We’ve come up with 3 main lessons to teach your teenager about dating. It might be a good idea to split them up and do them on 3 different occasions. We’ve thrown in ideas for activities and some fabulous resources to help you out as well! So, let’s get started!

Teen Dating 101 is in session!

Lesson 1: The Why and How of Dating

Activities:

So why do we date? Well as young teenagers, dating is important to learn social skills, and to have FUN! Help your teen understand that it isn’t healthy to get in serious relationships before reaching a certain maturity level. As we get older, dating becomes more about finding love and a companion to settle down with. This could be a fun time to share the dating story of you and your spouse with your kids!

Together with your kids, make a set of family rules for dating. What are your expectations as parents? What time is curfew? At what age do you feel your kids are “date ready?” Do you expect them to date in groups? Setting all of these expectations early will set you up for success.

This would also be a great time to have your teens think about what’s important to them when dating. What kind of person do they want to be dating? How do they want to be treated?  What kinds of activities are ok, and what would make them uncomfortable? Help your kids set their own personal standards and expectations for their dates, and teach them about how to be safe and make sure they respect themselves and their dates.

We’ve created a darling Dating Rules printable of general guidelines for dates. This is cute enough to be displayed in your home or teen’s room! We’ve also included a Blank Dating Rules template for you to create your own, family specific rules.

Teen Dating Rules

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Lesson 2: Preparation Before the Date

Activities:

An important part of a date is preparation! This includes asking out your date, planning an activity and getting yourself clean — looking and smelling good to present your best self.

Teens are all about texting, but the old-fashioned phone call, or even asking out in person, shows a lot of respect and courage! Do some role playing and have your teen pretend to call and ask someone out. Have them be asked out as well so they know how to accept or respectfully decline an invitation.

“Hanging out” is fun, but oftentimes it leads to boredom, which leads to trouble. Planning different and exciting activities for dates will keep things from getting awkward and will be SO much more fun!  If all kids ever do is “hang out,” won’t they do the same when they’re married? It’s great to veg out some nights of course, but if you and your spouse just sit on the couch all the time, you aren’t growing as a couple or making new memories! We want to start those good habits now with your kids!

Help your teen brainstorm some fun date activities. We’ve got tons of ideas on our site that can be adapted for teens. Check out our group date resources below!

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Lesson 3: What to Do On the Date

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Now it’s time for a lesson on how to act and behave once you are actually on your date! A fun way to do this is to watch a good and bad example, and identify what went well, and what went wrong!

We’ve grabbed two movie clips for you to use, but feel free to use your own!

Bad Date – Despicable Me 2

In this bad date, Gru isn’t being himself, he’s wearing a wig! His date is constantly talking about herself, insulting him, and embarrassing him. She’s also very negative. All things to avoid, of course!! (If you have access the whole movie, you may want to rewind and watch a little more of the date).

Good Date – Elf
Your teenager doesn’t have to sing their true love to the whole world, but Buddy the Elf is happy and smiling the whole time on this date. He compliments his date and has a series of fun activities planned for the night. Even though he acts a little goofy, Jovi is a good sport and goes with it, even if it’s not necessarily her idea of fun. They end up having a great time together!

You may also want to talk about etiquette and manners, how to eat and behave while you are with your date!

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Dating Practice Review Game
Now have some fun reviewing what you’ve learned! Have a family game night and play this dating practice review game. Play Charades OR Pictionary, whichever you prefer! Just pick a slip of paper, and act out or draw what the paper indicates. Then your team tries to guess! You will have a blast showing what to do (and what NOT to do) on a date!
Game idea to teach your teens about dating!

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Final Exam: Mock Date

As the final exam of the Dating 101 Mini-School, have your teen put their skills into practice on a mock date with Mom or Dad! We’ve gathered some fun date ideas for you below!
Have your sons practice calling Mom to ask her on a date, planning an activity, and displaying respect and manners throughout. 
Daughters can respectfully accept a date from her father, and practice their etiquette and respect during the date. Or if you want to mix things up, let your daughter be the one to ask out Dad and plan the date!
If they pass, you can give the OK for their first date! Your teenager will have the skills needed to make friendship and have fun experiences while staying safe!
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Report Card
After your teen passes each lesson AND the final exam, give them this darling little report card. You can give some tips where they can improve, along with some love and encouragement. 
Dating 101- Help Teenagers develop good dating habits now!
Ready to get started? Round up your family and use our free printables to help you educate and prepare your teens for dating! Have fun!
Quick “Diva Favorite” shout-out! If you haven’t read given this incredible book by Sean Covey to your teen yet, it’s a must! 

Quality time with your teenagers can be hard to come by. Make it a priority and get to know that mysterious teenager with our

Time with Your Teen kit!

If you have teenagers and liked the idea above, you’ll love our Time with Your Teen Kit! It includes 5 parent-teenager dates that are geared toward any teens’ interest. They will help you spend quality time with your older kids. Strengthening that tricky parent teen relationship but can be done with some intentional time together. Check it out here!

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About the Author: Gabby

I'm a happy gal who's lucky enough to have the sweetest, goofiest, most handsome husband, and two darling little girls! I try to stay positive, look for the best in others and my highest priorities are my faith, family and friends. Some of my favorite things include cuddling (I wish it was my full-time job!), yoga, DIY home projects, donut hunting, bike rides, parties, picnics and trying new recipes. I have a serious sweet tooth and will do anything to get to sunshine & the beach!

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7 Responses to Teaching Teen Dating Skills

  1. OH MY GOSH! This is seriously the CUTEST thing ever!! Like EVER!!!!! I’m pretty much in love and wish we had teens right now to do this! lol What a fun way to teach dating skills!

    1. Thanks Ruth! I’m sure those moms will love the printables! I really feel like our teens today need a lot of instructions and guidance in the are, since the real meaning of “dating” has sort of been lost! Hope this helps you out!! xoxo

  2. Hi,
    I purchased your “Time with your Teens” packet for $6.97 but I do not see the Dating Practice Review Game. Should that be included? If not, how may I purchase that?

    Thanks much,
    Cathi Fallon

    1. Hi Cathi! I hope you like the Time with your Teens kit- It’s packed with awesome stuff for teenagers. The “Dating Practice Review Game” is actually a free download, on this post! Sorry if the wording was confusing. To find it, scroll down to the pink box that says “Click to Download our Free Teen Dating 101 Printables”. If you are still having trouble finding it, email ferren@thedatingdivas.com and she can help you out!