The Benefits of a Weekly Marriage Meeting
Did you know that having a weekly marriage meeting (or check-in) can significantly improve your marriage? It’s true!
In this article, you’ll learn about the benefits of having weekly marriage meetings, how to make them happen, and valuable talking points that will set you up for a successful week ahead. Ready to improve your marriage? Let’s go!
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What Are the Benefits of a Weekly Marriage Meeting?
Your marriage may be great already, but implementing a weekly marriage check-in will enhance your marriage and make it even better. Who doesn’t want that?
Much like a successful business holding a weekly business meeting, your successful marriage is dependent on checking in with each other often. However, your marriage meeting doesn’t need to be as formal as a business meeting. In fact, the less formal it is, the more likely you are to look forward to the meeting!
There are several benefits to holding weekly meetings/check-ins with each other. To name a few:
- More one-on-one connection
- A better understanding of each other’s needs
- Resolving conflict quickly and efficiently
- Rekindling friendship and romance
- Getting on and staying on the same page
I can’t think of any negative side effects to checking in with each other on a weekly basis. In fact, after implementing these weekly marriage meetings into my own marriage, my husband and I have both felt more connected, and we’ve had a better understanding of each other. Not to mention how nice it is to both be on the same page when it comes to our weekly goals and plans! We didn’t know that a weekly marriage meeting was what we were missing until we started scheduling them.
So, take it from me, having a weekly marriage meeting/relationship check-in with your partner will have a very positive outcome.
How to Make a Marriage Meeting Happen
First things first, set a date and time and stick to it. I recommend scheduling your meetings for the beginning of the week, so Sunday or Monday. If this doesn’t work for you, that’s okay! Schedule the meetings at a time that works best for your relationship.
Stick to your schedule as often as you can. You wouldn’t keep rescheduling an appointment with the doctor, would you? Of course not, because appointments with the doctor are important for your health! Apply this same mindset to these marriage meetings. These check-ins are just as important for the health of your marriage as an appointment with the doctor is for your physical health. Things happen, and schedules can change due to unforeseen circumstances, and that’s okay. I’m talking about sticking to your meeting schedule more often than not and doing the best you can to schedule other activities around your meeting (not the other way around).
When it’s time for your meeting, make sure you minimize all distractions. This includes phones, the TV, laptops, tablets, and kids. Distractions will make your meeting incredibly difficult, so it might be best to plan the meeting first thing in the morning or in the evening once everyone is in bed.
To limit distractions, you could take it out of the house, too! Take each other out for lunch or coffee, go on a walk, or sit on the front porch. Wherever the two of you can focus solely on each other for about half an hour is the best place to be!
This meeting doesn’t need to take hours, so even busy couples can squeeze it into their schedule! About 20–30 minutes is all you’ll need, and maybe even less if you can stay on task. Remember… It doesn’t necessarily matter how long the meeting is, just that the meeting is happening in the first place.
What to Discuss During Your Weekly Marriage Meeting
Next, let’s dive into what to discuss at these weekly marriage meetings. I think it goes without saying that every marriage is different and has its own needs, so while I can’t tell you exactly what you should discuss, I do have some pretty helpful ideas!
- List 3–5 things that you’re grateful for about your spouse. Try to be really specific about these.
- What went right this past week? What went wrong? Elaborate …
- Is there anything unresolved or any issues that need to be dealt with from the past week?
- How does the upcoming week look? What’s on the calendar?
- Is there anything you need your spouse’s help with? Is there anything they need from you?
- What’s the weekly budget?
- When is date night? Who will be planning it?
- When are you scheduling sex? (YES! Schedule sex! Check out this awesome article for more info.)
We know that every marriage is different. If these are things you want to discuss with your spouse, great! If not, sit with your spouse and create a list of talking points together. This meeting is for both of you. It’s important that you both feel heard and leave the meeting feeling uplifted and ready for a new week!
Ultimately, whatever you decide to discuss should set you up for a successful week ahead. Make sure the meeting is not just about the logistics of your work and family commitments. Use this time to also reflect on the state of your marriage over the past week and determine what can be improved. Did date night get postponed? That’s okay; just make a solid commitment to schedule it in the upcoming week. Were you hoping for more intimacy? Discuss how often you’d like to be intimate in the upcoming week, and who will initiate it and when. Are you going to have a really busy week at work and may get distracted or require more help with the kids? Discuss it now to avoid potential misunderstandings or resentment creeping up. The more you discuss, the more prepared each of you is to tackle anything that life throws at you—together!
I highly recommend taking notes during your meeting so that both of you can remain on the same page throughout the week. Did you know there are notebooks dedicated to marriage meetings? I had no idea!
You can even buy a couple’s planner or a calendar and set it up in a common area so the two of you can easily access it. This will help both of you to remember the upcoming events, activities, appointments, and other plans throughout the week.
Alternatively, you can create digital calendar invites/reminders and send them to each other’s phones.
In Conclusion
Marriage meetings are meant to bring the two of you together! Taking the time to reconnect after a busy week and planning for the week ahead is going to do amazing things for your marriage. Just like you prioritize your health with medical checkups, your marriage should be prioritized with marriage meetings/check-ins.
Through consistency, open, honest communication, and a clear understanding of each other’s needs, a marriage meeting can begin to improve your marriage after just a few sessions.
Good luck! Happy Scheduling!
