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The BEST Advice for Newlyweds

Recently, our readers were incredibly generous in helping me create the MOST AMAZING “marriage advice bridal shower” for my sweet friend, Natalie this past weekend! The response was nothing short of AH-mazing… I actually received hundreds of insightful and wonderful bits of marriage advice from our fabulous readers!
And when it came time for the shower, your marriage advice seriously MADE her day. When Natalie walked in to see the outpouring of love and support written on heartfelt messages from SO many people, she could NOT believe her eyes! It really was such a special moment I will never forget! And neither will Natalie. You all completely made that happen for her!! And down the road, when people ask her what the secret to a long happy marriage is, she will totally know the answer!
I truly could hug you ALL for being so amazing and reaching out the way you did! My heart is so full of gratitude and love for each of you!!!! So, I wanted to share with everyone these OVER 600 incredible snippets of marriage advice! Your wisdom and your generosity can now serve SO many other couples, too!
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
{and ps: Here’s how the advice looked hung up at the shower! Sooooo pretty!!!}
Marriage Advice
Alright, let’s get to it!
  1. This is going to sound harsh…but you need to get over yourself 🙂 You’re not always right, and when you are, don’t be smug about it. Humility is THE BEST trait that you can have in marriage and it has worked well for me and my husband for the past 10 years. Laugh at yourself, laugh at your mistakes and don’t sweat the little things! Best wishes! – Erin Williams
  2. Fight naked. He will give in every time! – Stephanie Dulgarian
  3. The best advice I ever got was to remember that your spouse decided to marry you because he or she fell in love with YOU.  It is therefore so important to keep true to you, even through all the seasons of marriage, parenthood and even personal and couple changes. Best wishes and many blessings on you both xoxo –Cecilia DeArtola
  4. Congratulations!  Always treat each other respectfully as equals.  Never speak poorly of each other socially. Remember that neither of you is the parent of the other.  Date each other and have fun!   – Miranda Holsted
  5. Remember if one of you wins the argument, both of you and your marriage loses. (Not talking about the sports trivia question kind of argument) –Lisa & Drew Stillman

  6. One of the best things we’ve done for our marriage is have a weekly meeting (ours is Sunday after kids are in bed) where we plan the week and ask each other how we can make their life better that week. It keeps anything from building and gives us a chance to talk about anything that is going wrong. We only get to make one request for the week so it’s pretty easy to remember. Our relationship has grown and strengthened so much since we started! –Hillary

  7. I am no expert on marriage but what my main advice would be is to always work on your marriage.  It is the most important thing!  A good marriage is the foundation to bring kids in a home that has so much love already.  Use the Dating Divas!  Go on dates and have fun!  Don’t sweat the small stuff and just enjoy life!  Be happy and in love!  Married life is the absolute best!!! –Kassie Peterson

  8. This has probably been covered before, but set realistic expectations.  That was the most challenging thing I faced, but having realistic expectations and choosing to NOT expect perfection really helped my marriage. –Fawn & Nathan Bohlken

  9. Be kind to each other. Treat your spouse as you would your best friend, better than your best friend. If he/she is having a tough day, give them a soft place to land. If he/she is angry/grumpy/frustrated take a step back, don’t take it personally, treat them with an increased measure of love and respect.    –Mrs. Jongejan

  10. Marriage isn’t easy.  It’s a lot of hard work but that work should be a labor of love.  It is work that you should enjoy doing. P.S.  Same rules apply to childbirth. –Kelly & Daryl Patterson

  11. Don’t go to bed mad! –Mrs.Pruitt

  12. Take the time to put down the phones and talk. It is so easy to let the electronics get in the way. You need meaningful conversation every day, even if it’s just for 5 minutes. –Sharylann Smith

  13. One thing I always try to do is randomly call or message my husband throughout the day just to ask him how his day is going and not complain about my day. I like to just listen and hear him out, he tells me that he looks forward to my call and being able to talk. –Nina Verkaik

  14. Starting on your first anniversary, buy your spouse a gift following the traditional or modern gift ideas. Ex. Year 1 is paper, Year 2 is cotton, etc.  After you’ve been married a few years, you don’t really need anything and it’s always fun to be creative with the themes.  For example, for our first anniversary I bought and framed 1 piece of Disney stock. (We went to Disney World on our honeymoon.) –Nina & John Oliver

  15. Sometimes going to bed upset or mad is ok… you wake up to realize what you were arguing over was silly and you both were just tired! –Joyce

  16. Never tell your parent(s) about a fight that you had with your spouse. You will forgive and forget, but your parents won’t. I was given this advice and didn’t listen to it. The result…my mom hated my husband! Best of luck to you! –Julie

  17. A great quote to be reminded of! “None of us marry perfection, we marry potential.”  -Robert D Hales –Friend

  18. My favorite advice comes from a quote in the movie “Parental Guidance.”  The daughter is arguing with her mom and yells “You’re always taking his side!” in reference to her father.  Her mom responds, “With good reason, because after your kids leave, he’s the one who stays.” Remembering this quote helps me to keep my marriage as my top priority. –Jessica

  19. Just because your hubby does things differently than you, doesn’t mean he’s doing it wrong. –Becca

  20. Not so much marriage advice but great advice nonetheless – brother in law told my husband, “the best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother.” Showing them the love and friendship will foster a like minded love and friendship. Something for them to emulate. –Heather

  21. Do things together and have fun…. It’s ALL about the memories 😉 –Samantha

  22. Women need to feel loved. Men need to feel respected. And learn each other’s love languages. It will save you a lot of hurt and misunderstanding down the line. –Marcie Kent

  23. Always put your love of each other first! It’s all too easy for “life” to take over. Whether it be work, friends, a new baby, house projects, etc. So it’s important to prioritize your love by taking time and effort to nurture it on a consistent basis. Congratulations and Blessings to you both! –Noel

  24. The best piece of advice I got when I was married, 6 years ago, was from my Grandma. She told me that no matter what happens in life to still get dressed up for dates. “Life gets crazy, I know. BUT it is important to still try and impress your husband even after 53 years of marriage.” –Mandy

  25. Most people say: To live learn and grow in a marriage you must communicate. I wholeheartedly believe this but, I believe that you must also laugh!  Mike and I have been together for almost 15 years and we do our fair share of communicating. Some of the time it just happens to be yelling and screaming at each other but, he makes me laugh every day and this I love.  Joanne Woodward who was an actress in the 50’s and married to Paul Newman for 40+ years said “Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades. But to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, now that’s a real treat.” Laugh with each other and at each other every day.  If you’re relieved to be done with the wedding planning, it’s easy to forget that the real work hasn’t even started yet. Marriage is always a work in progress. The feelings and attractions that brought you together early on in your relationship are unlikely to hold you together as you mature and your lifestyle changes. Promise each other that you’ll build a future together and that you’ll always honor his or her needs and point of view. You can only go as far as you want to go!! A successful marriage requires falling in love over and over again, always with the same person. As you both learn and grow in your lives you will also learn and grow within your marriage! We can’t wait to see the wonderful couple you become! –Shelley and Mike Jag

  26. Shower together! It helps save water 😉 –Roxanne Dent

  27. Put each other first.  If you take care of his needs,  and he takes care of your needs, then everyone is taken care of. –Jennifer and Gregory Babbitt

  28. This advice was given to me by my step mom… You may not always like each other but you will always love each other. There will be times when your mad or upset with your spouse and won’t “like them” but always remember the reasons you love them. Marriage has a lot of ups but there are also downs, so don’t be afraid to ask for help when things get hard… –Beth

  29. Choose to love each other every day. Many people believe love is a feeling, but we believe it is a choice as well. We choose to love each other even in the hard times and it has kept us strong for 17 years. –Jennifer

  30. Pray to love your spouse more every single day, to be their support through good times and bad, enjoy their company and makes loooots of love! –Friend

  31. If you ever find yourself in a argument I suggest taking your clothes off because it will end so fast. I know this, I have been married now for 17yrs. And it works every time. Well as least at home. Good luck and congrats. –Stephanie & Paul Trujillo

  32. If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything! But half of those times, just make up something nice to say 🙂 –Kiomi
  33. Refuse to take offense, because offense is rarely intended. –Tiffany & Kyle McGarry

  34. The couple that LAUGHS together stays together! 🙂 –Kelly DeBardelaben 

  35. Congratulations!!!  Communicate, communicate, communicate & you’ll have a wonderful future!!  Communicate verbally, emotionally, and physically…nobody is a mind reader!!  Have fun!! –Teresa & Russell Higgins

  36. I’ve been with my hubby for 13 amazing years.  Here are a few simple (but important) things we follow. Never let the little things fade, consider each other a team and keep an open communication (good and bad). I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. –Kaylene

  37. Remember that you came from different backgrounds so you may see things differently. Have an open mind and communicate because you will not always see eye to eye on some topics. There is not one right answer so come up with it together so it can be your right answer and what’s best for both of you. –Kennedy & Andrew Brown

  38. The best way to get the last word in following an argument is to say, “I’m sorry.” –Robyn Madsen

  39. Continue dating. Nurture your relationship. –Dana & Sal Crano

  40. My husband and I have been married for 20 years. I’m still very much in love with him and I still get excited when he comes home from work. Now don’t get me wrong, marriage is hard work so here’s Some of the best advice I can give you…

    1-Always take the time to have alone time together once a week. We have 4 boys and know how busy life can get. But it’s always important to take time to reconnect and make each other feel special with alone time.

    2-This is VERY important. Do not hang out alone with the opposite sex no matter how long you have been friends. It causes doubt in your spouse that they may or may not admit to. We have had friends that made fun of us for this but then later agreed it was a good idea when they ended up divorced over an affair that occurred from this kind of friendship.

    3- Never stop trying to make your spouse feel special. Do occasional surprises like hidden notes or random texts messages. Grab them when they come home from work and sneak off for a quick make out session.

    The bottom line is, your spouse is a gift. You never know how long you get to have them for, tragedies may happen and God might call them home. Make every day count. Yes you will fight and disagree with things but honestly, those things make your marriage stronger when you respond to them in a positive way. Treat your spouse with the love that you want to be returned to you. –Shannon

  41. The best advice is to always be best friends first! –Heather Barrios

  42. I know that a lot of people say “Never go to bed angry” when you and your spouse are in a disagreement. While that’s nice in theory…lets be honest.  You can’t exactly turn your feelings on and off like a light switch, and that’s OK!  Sometimes, you just need to have your “me” time to reflect and sort out your feelings, and often that requires a good nights sleep.  That being said, while you might go to bed still fuming/upset about a particular instance…always tell the other person that you love them and goodnight.  Even though you might not be the happiest with them at that moment…you BOTH will feel worse if those 3 little words aren’t said. 🙂 –Christina Helms

  43. Use kind words to each other like please and thank you regularly. Just because your spouse knows you best doesn’t lessen the need to extend this simple courtesy. –Friend

  44. Before you even get married promise each other you will NEVER, EVER say the “D” word! My husband and I promised each other we would never use the word divorce. That was 18 years ago and I’m happy to report we have never let that word come out of our mouths. –Renee

  45. Let God be the center of your marriage. Pray together!!! –Karla

  46. Communicate effectively and never go to bed angry at each other. –LaKia

  47. The best advice I ever received reminded me that open communication is key to a successful marriage. What you need to say may hurt each other’s feelings, but if you can trust that it comes from love (and not make it personal) you can get past the hurt and grow even more close together. This will help you soar above and beyond all challenges that come your way. –Friend

  48. Each of you work individually to be inspired to make great changes in your life.  Inspire each other to be better by becoming better yourself.  When both of you work at it, and no one is expecting the other to change for them, great things happen!  Never expect changes in your loved one.  Work on being humble and teachable instead of hard headed.  🙂 –Shannon White

  49. The best advice is FORGIVE. I would have never ever suggested such a thing but having been married for 20 years that is the one thing nobody ever told me I should or would have to do. It is not easy but most marriages that have lasted have done so because of forgiveness. –Chris

  50. Love with all you have, there will be times when you disagree . You both will change over time but always love that person for who they are and who they become. Change together. And most of all forgive often, forgiveness is the key to a lasting marriage. –Friend

  51. Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!! Talk about everything even the hard stuff and even when you don’t want to. Especially the hard stuff and especially when you don’t want to. It’s the one piece of advice my mother-in-law gave me and it has taken us a long time to get it!! But every bit of these 17 years makes it all worth it! –Laura

  52. Never go to bed angry, always tell each other you love them at least once a day, if not more, and ALWAYS show respect, no matter what the situation is. –Friend

  53. My advice for both of you is to never stop being friends, and to truly love each other for who you really are. If you don’t, you are creating unrealistic expectations for one another, that neither one of you are able to live up to. You will see the worst of each other, but you’ll also see the VERY best. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, and have a 2 year old daughter. Once you have spent days and weeks without any sleep, you will definitely know what the worst is in someone. And before you say something, just step back, and breathe, and think is this really that big of a deal? Chances are…. it’s not. There will be times that you laugh together, and cry together, but always do them together. I wish you both the very best in your marriage!! –Krystin & Derris Butler

  54. Always remember your “sense” may not be the same as your spouse. If you think about a large iceberg, you can only see the top portion. What you do not see is the largest part which is under water.  The under water portion is what gives your partner their “sense” of a situation.  Try to see their sense. –Brandy Allen

  55. Natalie,

    I want to share two pieces of advice that I feel will be important for many years to come…

    1st: Always LOVE with all your heart!

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7New International Version (NIV)

    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    2nd: Remember to put God first in your marriage and you can NEVER go wrong!

    Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

    Much Love and Happiness for many years to come!! –Kimberly

  56. Always put your spouses needs first. If you both do this, you will always win. Don’t forget to always always date your mate. –Diana

  57. 1.   If you show and respect him, he will always cherish you.

    2.   Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy. –Pamela

  58. No matter how hard it is to realize…sometimes he is right!!  Ha! Ha!  Been married 23 years as of this March, and we work together 24/7 in our own business and have raised two beautiful children.  Best wishes!! –Nicole

  59. Continue to date your husband, even after you have moved in together and/or gotten married. Every day I tell my husband what it is that I love about him- both to remind him and most importantly to remind ME why I married this man. Also, after we fight, even if I feel I’m “right” I still go to him after I have calmed down to apologize for being so hot headed. We usually are both “right” from our perspectives, but it is more important for us to be together than apart and still angry. And then I tell him from my heart why I got so angry, especially if it wasn’t his fault I am angry. Good luck! It’s a lot of work but it’s so wonderful that it doesn’t feel like work. –Teresa Flores

  60. My Grandmother told me the secret to marriage: “There are very few things worth arguing about.” –Becky Lacey

  61. Marriage is a 50/50 relationship, but no one on Earth can tell you what that really means. So if you both put in 60, you’ll be fine! –René Hale

  62. Seek out opportunities to laugh and be silly with each other. … and when he’s on your last nerve, it always gets better when you realize that you can never change your partner but you can change how you react to your partner. –Jessica

  63. Marriage is awesome, but it’s also hard!  It’s God’s best way of refining each of us to be more like Him! So my advice to you is:

    1) Keep God first in everything.  Rely on the Holy Spirit to be a giver more than a taker.

    2) It’s okay to argue, it just depends on how you do it!  When you start to argue, take the time to pray first. Pay attention to how God is looking to change you, and pray for God to take care of your spouse.

    Many blessings on your marriage! –Friend

  64. Forgive Easily –Holly & Jonathan Buchanan

  65. Start each day with a snuggle and a prayer. No sweeter way to start the day! –Sabra Penley

  66. Smile and laugh often! And they now sell pregnancy tests at your neighborhood Dollar Tree stores. 🙂 –Friend

  67. Date night is not optional – especially when kids come! –Stephanie

  68. My best advice is to keep Jesus as the center of marriage. All other problems fix themselves when He is your sole purpose for marriage. I would also say to not waste time fighting about the little things. If you aren’t going to remember what you were upset about in 3 days, it’s not worth wasting time arguing over. Life is way to short and sweet to waste time being at odds with the one we love. –Rachel

  69. You are never too old shop at places like Victoria’s Secret. Just seeing the bag will help you with a little romance if you need it! –Star Bailey

  70. Dear Natalie,Throughout the years, as you deal with life’s difficulties, you may(;wink) get angry with each other. No matter what, practice daily forgiveness. Do whatever you can to make up before you go to sleep, and enjoy the making up part! With blessings for your marriage – Niki
  71. If you push to get an answer more quickly, you’re likely to not get the answer you want.  And if you force your spouse to give the answer you want, they may not mean it in their heart.  From now on, be prepared to wait patiently and accept the truth from your spouse. It may not always feel good, but when you receive the truth graciously, you create an environment where your spouse never needs to lie to you. –Crystal

  72. Even when your other half is grumpy, moody, or unlovable….show them love…shower them with love…and you will see a dynamic change in them…Love conquers all! –Michele McCartney

  73.  Always be a student of your spouse. Your spouse is dynamic, with preferences, dreams, and needs always changing. You’ll never have them entirely figured out. So humbly and eagerly learn in amazement and wonder as the gift of who your spouse is continually unwraps over the years. Congratulations! Enjoy the journey! –Sarah M

  74. My husband and I are about to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary. We have 2 beautiful children.  My husband is starting his 21st year in law enforcement.  Needless to say he has missed many holidays, birthdays, soccer games, and other special events.  My best advice is to talk to each other. We always carve out time each day between shuttling children to practices, church actives, and homework. We are each others sounding boards.  He tells me when he has had bad day at work.  I tell him  when I am worried about the kids or aging parents etc….  My next piece of advice is date! After you have babies and there is not much money or time, make it a priority to have special time for just the two of you.  One day the babies will grow up and fly the nest and it will be just the two of you again. It will happen faster than you think it will 🙂 You don’t want to be staring at a stranger when that day comes. -Jennifer Getts

  75. Don’t ever loose your sense of humor. The more stressful things get the more you’ll need a good laugh. Share inside jokes that only the two of you will get and always have each other’s back. –Laurie

  76. Always remember and think of each other as your best friend! –Robin Guadagnini

  77. Every time you think something negative about your spouse, (ie..he never puts his dishes in the dishwasher) think of three things he does do to help out around the house. It puts things into perspective and will make you smile! –Friend

  78. Never go to bed angry. Even if it means you have to stay up till 2am to resolve it. That said pray together everynight before bed and kiss and say I love you. –Melody

  79. First of all, congrats! You two chose each other over 7.125 other billion people. That is an amazing thing! My advice is to remember that marriage is fun! There will be times where you will feel bogged down with responsibilities and stress. Taking the kids to practice, pressures at work, chores, errands, etc. Just because we’re adults and have more responsibilities, doesn’t mean that we can’t have fun while we’re at it. Lean on each other and remind one another that you’re on this wonderful, fun, and exciting journey TOGETHER! 🙂 –Joy

  80. All marriages are unique and change over time. Always be ready and willing to change something that you thought would make “the perfect marriage” to something that give you the marriage you need and deserve. Being willing to sacrifice the short term wants for the long term beautiful marriage. –Brooke & Paul Iverson

  81. Marriage isn’t always easy or happy but when it is happy it is so good!  And if and when you start a family some day remember to always make time for each other and give each other “me”  Congrats!  Live, Laugh, Love! –Friend

  82. Always treat your husband with the same love and respect that you would want your future daughter-in-law to treat your son. –Teresa & Joseph Ramires

  83. The wedding is the easy part, the marriage takes work. Always listen to eachother, remember no matter what, God comes first, then your partner, then your kids. Have an amazing wedding, wonderful memories and people around you who love and support you! –Jackie Ludwig

  84. Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. Never stop. –Nickole

  85. Tomorrow, February 9th, I will be married 25 years. After thinking long and hard on this, the best advise I can honestly give is this: Choose your battles wisely. Always make sure that it is worth the turmoil and headache. Will it cause your marriage harm in the long run? Will you be able to forgive each other by sundown? Will you be able to look each other in the eyes and always say I Love You without doubting.  Not all battles are worth fighting. Sometimes it is best to look the other way and pray about it first. 

    Oh, and have separate tubes of tooth paste, always. –Cyndi

  86. Don’t take life so seriously. My hubby and i just love being silly together, even acting like teenagers in love. Life is full of hard “grown up” stuff, so just be goof balls together. –Shannon

  87. First of all congrats on your engagement!!!  I hope you both will have a lifetime of love, peace and happiness together!  Let’s see a couple of tips or advice I can give would be to never go to bed angry. Be a good listener, respect and try to see your spouses side of things even if you don’t see eye to eye on the same thing. Try to have a date night together at least 2x a month. Either at home or go out somewhere. Having a girls night/boys night is just as important. You’ll both need that alone time. Just have fun being in love and enjoying each other’s company! May God bless you both in your marriage! Congrats again:) –Breanne

  88. I’ve been married to my love for 11 years. My two pieces of advice are… 1. Never ever talk bad about your spouse to others… even when with your girlfriends and they start complaining about their spouse. It is a slippery slope where if you start dwelling on a negative, it starts to grow in your heart. And 2. Always take interest and ask questions about your spouses passions. My husband has worked in radio, as an on-air personality part-time since he was 12. I must have heard all his stories hundreds of times, but I take the point and ask to hear about certain stories again. To see his eyes light up when he goes into his story, is so worth hearing a story that you can lip sync along with! 🙂 Best wishes on your nuptials! –Rebecca Kuchenbecker

  89. Compromise!!!  That is the key to a successful marriage.  And too often we are more worried about having the last word.  Sometimes you just have to say “your right dear” (even when you know YOU are!!!) Silly arguments often end up being huge disagreements, usually fueled by pride. –Samantha Nelson

  90. Our priest told us to fight naked. 🙂 Have we? no, but it makes sense. If you’re arguing over something meaningless, by the time you’re naked, you realize that it wasn’t something to be arguing over in the first place. Bonus, you’re already naked 😉 However, communication is key to any long standing relationship. Don’t forget that.

    Also, don’t forget to say I love you out of nowhere. It becomes so routine, that it’s nice to get a random I love you text in the middle of the day.

    Lastly, never stop dating. We get so caught up in our everyday lives/routine that we forget why we got married in the first place. Whether it’s once a week or once a month, make time for a date night/day. Go be a tourist in your city/state, dinner and a movie, or cook dinner together and cozy up to a movie at home. Put away the computers and cell phones and enjoy each other! Don’t let life get in the way of love. –Ashley

  91. Love isn’t always a feeling. Meaning, there will be times in your marriage when you don’t feel like being very loving or your husband isn’t being very lovable, but you act like a loving wife anyway. –Friend

  92. If it won’t matter in 20 years, its not worth fighting over now.

    For him: If you are in a situation in which you need to choose between your mother or your wife, always choose your wife! –Amy

  93. Be Kind. -Friend
  94. Put God as the ultimate center and head of your marriage. Think of 1 nice thing about your spouse and give him/her at least 1 nice compliment everyday. –Joanne

  95. Never, ever go to bed angry with each other.  If it’s bothering you, speak up as soon as possible.  Otherwise, it’s not worth your time.  Life is way too short so speak up if it matters to you. –Laura

  96. Always fall asleep touching! There’s something beautifully powerful to feeling the peace, safety and comfort of knowing each of you are only one small touch away. So, why not, no matter how tired, worn out, satisfied or hurt you may be when you lay down your head on the pillow at night, just make one small move towards connecting in such a simple way! –Rhiannon

  97. Learn what God’s design is for marriage, what His role is for wives, and be obedient to that role and calling. The world’s ideas are so contrary to God’s plan, but following His plan and design, being obedient to that calling, will bring innumerable blessings beyond comprehension! –Melissa & Robert Pallone

  98. Never go to bed angry at each other. Sometimes holding to the “never” isn’t possible, because life happens, but in those instances, make an action plan for when you are going to work through whatever is wrong and promise each other that you’ll individually work on forgiving yourselves and your spouse. This prevents grudges and unsolved issues. We always feel stronger and closer after this process so that we can rest a little easier that night. –Anna & Josh Goodman

  99. I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 –Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier

  100. Go to bed angry! In my marriage and relationship skills class they talked about when to HALT an argument and put it aside for later. H(hungry) A(angry) L(lonely) T(tired). Those important conversations can wait until you are rested, thinking clearly, and no longer emotionally charged. Sometimes you will find that sleep will solve the little problems that seemed big at the time all by itself. “Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved.” –Elizabeth

  101. I’ll give you the best advice I got at my wedding: Keep God first and never shower alone 😉 – Kaylin & Gregory Spurrier
  102. The best advice I can give is always be able to communicate with each other. Also always be able to laugh together. Being able to talk and laugh with each other makes everything so much better and stronger. – Courtney & Kevin Mole
  103. Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE!! Don’t assume your spouse automatically KNOWS what you’re thinking, wanting, expecting, excited about, struggling with, angry about, or simply that you love him/her. You have to let them know and seek to work through the difficulties by talking through them together, using God’s Word to solve problems. –  Molly & Steve Stillwell
  104. Do “it” when you don’t FEEL like it–forgive, make love, laugh, go the extra mile, compromise. Right emotions follow right actions. Embrace anything you perceive as a body flaw, because he won’t see it…you’ll just be beautiful to him…believe him when he says it. – Johanna & Michael Moak
  105. Always be completely open and honest!  Just laugh off the little things – what may seem like little annoyances in the beginning will make you smile later on and say, “yep that’s my husband!” – Liz (& Zack) Dees
  106. Hi Congratulations!! NEVER NEVER MENTION the word divorce don’t ever put it on the table in arguments and itll never be a temptation during the heat of the moment. – Jodi & Brandon Jaggers
  107. Learn to pick your battles. Some things aren’t worth arguing over, even if it means you know you’re right be don’t say it. However, if something is important to you, stand your ground. – Lori
  108. Always listen to each other and find that happy medium. Marriage is not you or me, is us, so even if you not agree on everything, compromise a little and find that middle where you both can be happy. – Glenda Morrison
  109. When your husband is ready to ‘throw in the towel’, you fight for your marriage and vice versa. As long as one of you is always fighting, then your marriage will stay strong! The key is never giving in at the same time 🙂 We all have ‘moments’ when it feels too hard…you just can not have them at the same time! – Reader
  110. Never stop dating your spouse! Life can be CRAZY with work, friends, kids, but setting aside a time for just you and your sweetie can make such a different in your life. Whether it’s a movie date or setting out on a new adventure together, it’s the fact that you are making valuable memories TOGETHER. – Diva Heather Butler
  111. The opportunity to do FOR your spouse, is just that, an opportunity.  It’s not a chore, and remember it’s not a tally sheet.  You have a chance to make life easier for the person you love, that is a gift.  Choose to give it every chance you get. – Amanda Barbercheck-King
  112. Remember that both of you come from different communication backgrounds and that it is ok to disagree or argue. It is ok if you both need some space for a little bit to think and calm down. Remember to always reconcile and come together after a fight. Also in my experience it is always ok to go to bed mad. Almost every time we do, we wake up feeling refreshed and not as angry as the night before. Also remember to do fun things together and make memories before kids come along. Stay up late binge watching Netflix, have sleepovers in the living room, try adventurous foods, make new couple friends and most importantly: TRAVEL!  – Kayley Wilson
  113. Always remember that in marriage, it is NOT a 50/50 relationship. It is 100/100. Give 100% of your effort. Especially when your spouse isn’t able. Stop keeping score.  – Kari
  114. Pray together!  Hold hands and pray TOGETHER.  My husband and I either embrace each other or just holds hands every morning before we leave and recite the Lord’s Prayer together.  At night when we go to bed we lay in bed, holding hands and one of us will pray again giving thanks for the day and for protection for the day ahead. One thing we know for sure…the couple that prays together, stays together!  Congratulations!!! – Angie & Pete Tuitel
  115. Be patient, be kind, pick your battles & always try to put yourself in your spouses shoes.– Friend
  116. Always be willing to serve first, forgive the fastest, and love the most. Congratulations! – Shelli
  117. Make the decision from the beginning that there is no out. That this is going to work. Stay dedicated to that through the awesome times, but even the hard times that will come as well. Be willing to accept your spouse as they are, not as you want them to be, realizing that the person you marry today will change. We all do! But, that can be a really great and fun experience if you go in accepting that from the start. LAUGH. Be willing to laugh at yourself and laugh with your spouse. PLAY. Don’t ever get to old to have fun. Make sure to remember to have fun with each other, making your spouse not only your husband/wife, but your friend. – Jessica Stahl
  118. Congratulations! My husband and I don’t argue often, that doesn’t mean we don’t have bad days at work and get frustrated. We all come home and feel like just picking a fight sometimes. We hate to admit it, but it’s human nature to blow off some steam! On nights like this when we know we are “in the mood to argue" we try to argue about things that would never hurt each other’s feelings. We argue about things that have nothing to do with each other. We stay on topic and sometimes it gets heated. But we walk away knowing we are still a team with opposing views.  Last time we “got into it,” it was over Home Owners Associations! Hahahah! You get to feel like you are blowing off steam and fighting but again, you walk away still feeling good about each other and no one has their feelings hurt. -Ashley & Matt Gootee
  119. Coffee in bed! My husband and I used to have breakfast in bed almost every Sunday and talk and daydream and read the paper and just hang out… now we have a toddler in our bed EVERY Saturday AND Sunday morning, but we still share a mug of coffee in bed and simply enjoy being together (and reading picture books out loud in funny voices). – Britta Bichowski
  120. Don’t run to your mom or girlfriends every time you have a fight. You two will make up and forgive & forget.  Your mom and friends will NEVER forget! – Valerie
  121. Enjoy the quiet moments, when all there is to do is be together! – Reader
  122. Always strive to uplift each other. If you love each other, you make it work. Whatever that “it” may be at the time.-Ginny
  123. My best wishes to you and your husband to be, Natalie! Love and Honor him by respecting yourself and never ever talking in anger. Appreciate her as much as you can because when a woman loves, she does with her heart and soul. “HAND IN HAND; HEART WITH HEART!” I wish you both all the best now and always do things hand in hand to make decisions more sound and heart with heart to live in peace knowing you both become one! Lots of love! – Clar
  124. Never go to bed angry!-Liz
  125. Don’t be selfish. Think of your spouse’s feelings first. If both of you do that, you’ll have a loving, self-sacrificing romance for the rest of your lives.-Annie
  126. Even when you’re mad, kiss each other goodnight. – Jamie
  127. Hopefully, you are marring your best friend – so, remember, you will NOT agree on everything.  Make a pact to agree to disagree sometimes.  That can be done without being disagreeable! – Sara Hanvey
  128. You must put each other first, no matter how busy you get when you become crazy dance mom or a soccer mom! Your husband is priority 1 and will be happier if you are always there when he needs you to fill all his many needs and there are many. Be best friends and always hold hands in public. Be his girlfriend always – Cheryl
  129. Remember you’re on the same team! Not competing against each other! – Friend
  130. I have found there are three main factors in a lasting marriage… forgiveness, laughter and lots of love! Date each other, do special things together, and spend quality time together. Pick your battles, and forgive quickly. Best wishes to you both! – Ang & Kenneth Mayes
  131. Marriage really isn’t a union you can prepare for. It’s all about on-the-job training. In my opinion, that’s the whole point of making the commitment up front. You don’t know what you’re getting into, whether it’s the morning after or ten years down the road. People change and they stay the same. Often, it seems the things we want to change stay the same and the things we wish would stay the same change. But therein lies the beauty of the commitment. It says, “I don’t yet know all of who you are or who you will become. I choose to love you for who you are now, all of you that I know and even the bits of you I may not be aware of yet, and I choose to continue loving you even when you may not be the same person you are today.” – Amy Hutchisson
  132. Hmm,the best advice I can offer, is to do your best to keep things new and fresh. I always listen to the things my wife talks about with her friends. and i take all of the information and do things accordingly throughout the year, doesn’t really have to be a special occasion. Guys always come to me asking for advice on date ideas for their wives now, LOL! We have been together almost 12 years now, things still feel pretty fresh for us… I wish you guys the best!!! – Antwon
  133. Beloved, make your homes a world of peace, an oasis of romance, an island of hope, a sea of creativity, a plethora of sex & an institute of innovation! Congratulations! – Adrienne E. Bell
  134. Know each other’s Love Language. Also if you find yourselves in a battle, call a time out -meaning: each of you ‘get more sleep!’  (and for the bride – read ‘The Queens Code’ ) – Valery
  135. Love is not as much of a feeling as it is a choice. Every morning choose to love each other. There may be days when you don’t ‘feel’ the love, but you can still choose to love. – Sarah Loncar
  136. First, Congratulations! My advice for the both of you is that your spouse should never be number one in your life. I know this goes against everything our culture says, but your spouse should always be number two. Your relationship with Jesus Christ should be number one, then your relationship with your spouse with fall into place. Blessings to the both of you as you celebrate this joyous time! – Crystal & Todd Tucker
  137. Even if you’re fighting or upset with eachother always sleep in the same bed. Just by sharing a bed and being able to reach over and touch the one you love, you will feel better about your life, it also aids in communication and energy exchange between the two of you! – Keeley
  138. It is not a lack of love….it is rather a lack of Friendship and communication that makes unhappy marriages! Always make time for FUN! – Friend
  139. Don’t feel like you have to go out to go on a date. Stay in, pour a glass of wine or two, order in food, and put on a movie or watch your favorite show. Simplicity is the best. – Candance
  140. CONGRATS!!! Enjoy being engaged. Show off that ring and try to remember every detail of the proposal. Journal about the experience. When planning, FORCE yourself to enjoy the wedding planning process, even when you get stressed. Take your time. Relax. Have fun! Choose things YOU want for the wedding because you WON’T be able to please everyone. You won’t. And it’s okay because it’s YOUR WEDDING!!! Oh, things won’t go as planned, so roll with it and be HAPPY YOU ARE MARRIED!!! 😀 – Annemarie Chamberlin
  141. Communication and commitment are key in a marriage! You have to communicate with each other and be on the same page! Going into a marriage with commitment is also a must. Any marriage can fail without being fully committed. It’s hard work, but it’s a definite must to make it last! Good luck! – Katy
  142. Make your relationship the first priority. – Heather & Rich Betzold 
  143. Never underestimate the power of small gestures and thank yous.– Michelle & Chris Bommarito
  144. Never go to bed angry….even if it means you stay up till 3:00 am talking about things.  The longer a fight drags out, the harder it becomes to let it go. Congrats on the engagement!!! – Joann & Chuckie Pagano 
  145. Honor each others feelings. Treat each other with respect. Seek opportunities to encourage each other. Go on a date at least once a week. Flirt with each other. Never go to bed angry/mad. Always kiss each morning and each night. – Veronica
  146. Love your spouse as THEY want to be loved (not as you do! These often aren’t the same and may take some investigating on your part!) -Amber
  147. Love isn’t black and white, right or wrong, yes or no.  Love is the gray area, the give and take, the giving up of your pride to make the other one happy, the beautiful compromise. – Amie Gould
  148. A great marriage requires falling in love over and over again. But always, always with the same person! Never stop trying to learn about your spouse, and never stop holding hands! – Brande
  149. Tell your spouse how you feel when you feel it. Don’t let feelings fester and grow like fungus. Discuss, attack (the issue), and love again. 🙂 – Dalys Geraets
  150. Whenever we take off our wedding bands (surgery), our spouse puts it back on our wedding finger and seals it with a Kiss. Works for us, almost 30 years. – Linda & John Martin
  151. Never stop holding each other’s hands. Whether you are walking together, sitting beside each other, whatever you are doing reach out and grab his (her) hand. It connects you without words. It communicates “I’m right here,” It’s a symbolic joining of your lives together. – Vanessa Bockover
  152. Kiss and cuddle every single day! Even if you only get a quick out-the-door peck, get your daily dose of spousal affection, no matter what. – Clarise & Adolfo Villalpando 
  153. Communication is the key. No matter how tired, busy or occupied you are, don’t forget to talk to each other. Say “I love you” daily and cherish every moment! – Jane
  154. Always say please and thank you to one another. You’ll be surprised how many people don’t. – Heather
  155. Stay strong for each other even if everything doesn’t go your way. – Gaucha
  156. FOR NATALIE: Always be kind! Men are not as tough as they seem to be on the exterior! Even when he deserves it, temper your admonishments and criticisms with loving kindness. FOR HER FIANCÉ: Love her tenderly through all of her emotions. Even when she seems angry or indifferent, she needs hug and your understanding. Be her rock through thick and thin.  She will cherish your thoughtfulness! – Alicia Moore
  157. Make time for sex. This is a huge part of marriage for your husband, and where you will get him connected the most. As long as love is alive all other parts of life seem to just flow along! Even when things are tense, make time to be intimate, it will keep the atmosphere between you and hubby comfortable and open! – Nicole & Ty Harty
  158. Sweet, Sweet Natalie….My Marriage advice for you is that Communication is key! I cannot stress that enough. There will be hard times, EVERY marriage has them. You need to talk, touch base, and have at least one date night per month. Spend time on yourselves, and Marriage classes down the road will be a Godsend! One more, never go to bed angry and Always kiss each other Good night! Congratulations!!!!!!! – Kimberly
  159. CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming marriage! How exciting. My advice to you is to always put your marriage first. Yes, even after you have children, your marriage should be first. Also, continue to date each other after you are married. Your children need stable, happy parents and watching you put each other first will have a great impact not only on their childhood, but on what they accept from a partner when they are adults. Also, when you put each other first and continue to date, you will continue to know each other through your journey, so when your kids are grown, you will have grown together, not apart, and you will have rewarding and happy twilight years as well.– Katherine Clegg
  160. Always communicate and NEVER go to bed angry! Put God first and all will fall into place. Always respect his decision and even if you don’t agree with his choices be supportive and be a helper to him not a burden. Love, love, love each other daily. Always remember to compliment each other and date each other often, because whatever it took to get him you will need to do that in order to keep him!! Best wishes on a happy & successful marriage!!! – Deone
  161. The best way to keep the spark going is never stop having fun with each other! Don’t let bills, housework, work etc. come in between you. If life feels too serious go see a comedy! Coulkes who play together, always stay together! Good luck and God bless 🙂 – Toni & Lee Sutcliffe Whyte
  162. Hi Natalie, My best advice is to not put your issues onto one another and when an argument arises remember: you and him vs. the problem. Warm regards, Toni Bergquist
  163. Make sure you laugh everyday with each other. It doesn’t matter what you are laughing about but do something that will make you both have a good laugh. Another good piece of advice is never leave the house without saying I love you no matter how long you’ll be gone or if the other one is sleeping. They might get a little irritated by being woken up but it will make you feel so loved to know that they couldn’t leave you without letting you know how much they love you.– Crystal Hampton
  164. A couple pieces of advice….1) listen 100% more than you talk! 2) When you feel like giving up, stop, pray, and wait. Never make serious, especially emotional, decisions when seriously stressed or overwhelmed with emotion. Time, prayer, and love put things in a very different light! All the best!! – Paula & Rex Termeer
  165. Never talk bad about your spouse! Not to your friends, family, people at work NO ONE! Always paint them in the best light and pray they are doing the same for you. You are a team and nothing breaks up a team like hearing that the person you trust most in the world is talking poorly about you behind your back! – Diva Jessica Keck & husband Branden
  166. Always make time to talk… With the technology wave, people stopped communicating! Always make time to talk together. – Allyson
  167. My advice is  – always keep open communication between each other and never forget He’s your best friend. Accept him for who he is and love with all you got. Lastly – keep them hands & feet cute, girrrll!! lol, they can never say no to foot rubs if you have well kept toes 😉 – Jessica Abbott
  168. You’ll walk down the aisle soon, and (hopefully) have this amazing GUT feeling that you just KNOW this is the RIGHT thing.  Remember how that feels.  Harness the power of that extreme amount of KNOWINGNESS.  Some day down the road, you’ll likely question your marriage… everyone goes through something and questions at some point, and it is a horrible feeling.  Future you might wonder if you were just young and stupid trusting in your gut when you said “I will.” No. If you truly feel the moment is right NOW, then you aren’t wrong (it’ll be the future you that’s wrong). Harness that and stick it in your back pocket.  It will save your marriage and keep you together when/if the time comes that you start to question things. OH – and talk to one another about the things that bother you, don’t complain to others about it.  That just makes those things bother you even more, and encourages others to talk bad about your spouse to you. All you’ll do is make yourself miserable as well as your spouse, who won’t know what they’re doing that’s bothering you! – Amy
  169. Live on just one income. That way if you work, one income can be saved or go toward making large purchases (furniture, appliances, down payments on cars or homes). Also, if/when you decide to have children, you’ll already be accustomed to living on one income and can have the freedom to be a SAHM if you wish! – Genita
  170. “Never stop growing together. Always communicate & be Best Friends.”
    My wife & I were finally able to get married (#lovewins) after being together for 23 years. The above “words of wisdom” come from our many years together. – Reader
  171. Always choose Oneness. Never speak ill of your husband. Love assumes the best about the other person. Trust me ..it counts.– Karissa
  172. Enjoy your lives together- the ups and the downs. Things may not be perfect every minute of every day you spend together, but being able to look back on all of the great things you have accomplished together helps you get past those bumps in the road and will make your relationship stronger! – Casey & Aaron Ward
  173. Laugh a lot together – Samantha
  174. This is something fun that my wife and I do. We put these letters where the other will find them and when you find them you have to give them back. The letters are “SHMILY” it stands for See How Much I Love You! We work in a school together so I will write it on her white board, or put it on a sticky note attached to her computer screen. At times I will find it in my lunch, or on the visor of the car. SHMILY! – Kurt
  175. Remember to let things go. There will always be things that annoy you about your spouse. Remember that you didn’t fall in love with them to change them. Accept them and let things go. In the long run the little things that bug you don’t really amount to much! – Roseanna & David Robison
  176. Make sure you take time for yourselves.  Sometimes its easy to forget that those dates that brought the two of you so close are important.  Take at least one date a month just to talk and laugh together.  Xoxo – Cortney & Ben Dunnigan
  177. Always start and end each day with a kiss and an “I love you!” – Michele
  178. Once a month have a date night at home. Take out your best china, silverware and glassware and use it. Even if you get take out Chinese food and put that on the plates. Make it fancy – light some candles and enjoy! – Karen
  179. Don’t give up! Some people say the first year of marriage is the hardest, for my husband and I it took 3-4 years to become fully in sync. We both have strong independent personalities and I was used to doing everything myself. It was hard to “give up control” and once we figured out what worked for us everything fell into place.– Cassandra
  180. When life is stressful and pulling you both in different directions; Sometimes having a picnic on the living room floor is the best date ever.  Perhaps some candles and wine? – Melissa Miller
  181. No matter what try your best to never go to sleep mad at each other. My grandma and grandpa lived by this rule and they have been married for 67 years. Good luck and I wish you both a beautiful marriage – Stephanie
  182. Treasure every good day because when you don’t agree on something, you’ll need to remember why you love each other sooooooo much. Congratulations! -Endia
  183. Be humble with each other. Don’t take each other for granted. Enrich and support each other even when times get rough! Most importantly, love one another very very much. Love and respect xo.– Joana Pimentel
  184. When times are tough remember to HUG each other for a few minutes.  It really does help me and my husband of 15 years, when life is kicking you the physical contact helps us remember we are being kicked together and that makes it easier to bear 🙂 – Shauna & Josh B.
  185. No matter what, stand by each other and do not give up.  Times will get tough, things will happen, but if you remember the love you have for one another today, it will help you when the going is the worst.– Tom
  186. Be HONEST ALWAYS.  No matter if you think it will hurt your partner, remember they are your partner and will stand by will stand by you at all times. – Kim
  187. Keep your love focused on the Vision of your future and your generations to come. My father used to say that the line between love and hate is a very thin one and can be broken in an instant and go from Love to Hate. Work on this love together. Make the little things meaningful. – Laretta &  Joseph Spitzenberger
  188. A marriage is made up of 2 imperfect people. NEVER forget that. Don’t expect perfection from him. Say what you mean. Don’t play word games. Thank him for the little things (taking out the trash, cleaning out the car, carrying in groceries, etc). Best wishes!! – Pamela Bowden
  189. Early on in our marriage, my husband said to me “We are part of the same team” that is my marriage motto to live by! Anything I can do to help another of my team members and contribute, I am all for it! – Peggy
  190. I used to be a banker and have lots of advice for those you are joining together. Do your finances together. At the end of each month calculate your expenses, pay your bills, pay yourself and your savings, and save a bit for a special trip.Too many of us divorce due to financial stress and arguments when we don’t have to. It should be about each other, not the money :). – Britney
  191. NEVER take each other for granted and thank your spouse for even the smallest things that they do for you.  ALWAYS be attentive and put their needs ahead of yours.  If you both do this, it is a blissfully, happy, forever marriage!  Good luck. – Terri
  192. Listen to each other…and I mean listen with not just your ears, but your heart too. Be understanding and always be compassionate. – Tiffany Bush
  193. The number one key to a successful marriage is communication. The reconnection keeps you going, face to face with each other every chance you get-date nights make a difference-even if it’s just a drive and a cup of coffee together. Eventually, all we will have left after life happens is talking to and listening to our spouse-so learn the skill and work to perfect it now! – Karen
  194. Find out your spouse’s love language early on and learn how to speak that language for them!! – Chelan
  195. If it’s a nice day, take a walk together. Something about the fresh air, sunshine, and exercise always gets us talking about our future together. -Kate and Rob
  196. At the end of the day, always find a little time to share your day with your partner (and vice-versa).  Best of luck xox – Melissa
  197. My advise is treat your marriage like a box. Put more into than you ever take out and it will always be full. – Kas
  198. ZOOM OUT! Always try to look at the big picture. When faced with small or tough, hard decisions, always zoom out and make decisions from a broader view, it allows you to see just how important the decision is and the role it plays in the priorities of your life. Congratulations! – Laura
  199. We are now in our 42nd Anniversary of a Blissful married life. There are only 3 simple guidelines:  Argue but don’t fight. Keep conversation going as if nothing happened….and finally KISS whenever and wherever. A kiss is a good healer, a fantastic love-sparkle. God Bless you both. – Gorg Sciberras
  200. Don’t ever let divorce be an option – keep your vows.– Marianne
  201.   Communicate with words! You can’t read each others minds. Laugh every day. Don’t spend more time with anyone else than you do your spouse. Put yourself in their shoes. Pick your battles and let the little things go. Never give up on each other. Be grateful for each other. -Sarah
  202. There will be good times and there will be tough times. In all those moments your motto should be “this must work.” – Alex Ndubai
  203. Always try new things & the things that you don’t really like to do may be way more fun with your lifetime love! Again, Congratulations & I wish you the greatest of lifetimes together!– Megan
  204. Pray together, laugh together, always plan adventures together. Be your own person and challenge yourself to grow individually so you can enhance your marriage. – Michelle (happily married over 16 years)
  205. In a marriage there is always growth and change. No one in the beginning of a marriage is never the same five, ten, or fifteen years down the line. If you always keep that in the front of your mind you will be able to adapt gracefully and have a full satisfying marriage!! Maturing together is wonderful! -Denise Wiley
  206. They say the key word to relationship is communication but sometimes your significant other also need space, private time to themselves when angry, emotional, or hurt. Don’t pressure him/her to talk until he/she is ready to.  -Thomasita & Paul John
  207. NEVER stop pursuing each other! – Serena
  208. Find hobbies to enjoy together that will last long after the kiddo’s are grown & gone! Let It Go! – When you have petty disagreements – Don’t hang onto them; It’s just not worth it! Choose joy!- Jennifer Garcia
  209. If real love exist both ways, learn how to say your sorry regardless which party did the wrong. Real love will do everything to keep each-other happy. – Jeri
  210. Treat all of the little moments together with as much importance as the big events.  All of those little moments — pushing the cart through the grocery aisles, folding laundry, crashing on the couch after work — can strengthen or weaken your marriage, so make them count! – Olivia
  211. Arguing leads to no victories. Take a deep breath, step back, and come back to talk, and REALLY talk things through. It’s so easy to let anger control your words (which aren’t so easy to take back), so when both of you are more calm, ask them to explain their side, then yours. This helps each of you to see the others point of view and how they feel about it. And if words were said, say sorry. It’s the hardest best thing to start the make up process. Best wishes!! – Patricia
  212. Stay young and playful just like the first date you had, remember? Never let the passion for each other die. – Elvy
  213. Always respect each other.– Lorene
  214. Remind yourself every day about something that makes you love your spouse! Some days this will be hard to do, but there is always something to love! – Aimee
  215. My mother told me two things. First don’t ask yourself if you can live with this person but rather ask if you can live without them. I know I can’t live with out my hubby and we are happy going on 14 years. The second thing was what works for your relationship is not always what is right for others, so if it works for your marriage, keep doing it. Congrats from our family to yours! – Claire
  216. Above everything else, communicate! Share what you like and what you dislike. Ask about what your husband/wife likes and dislikes. Learn from each other & your love will grow beyond anything you dreamt possible. My best to both of you! – Melissa Webster
  217. You love each other as you are. Never think of changing your loved one, anyway, anytime. Accept your beloved as she/he is. Being so has brought us full happiness and sheer bliss. Congrats and love.– Philippe
  218. Make an effort to go away every year to celebrate your anniversary.  I know as the years go on it gets harder but it’s very important to make your marriage a priority and get away and leave the kids at home! – Tara Vecrumba
  219. Never ever stop dating each other. – Jill
  220. Make plans for a weekly or monthly date night…and stick to it!! This is especially important after children come into the mix. A family is only as strong as the marriage that holds it together. Good luck! – Andrea Lauer
  221. TRUST: that is the most important thing in a marriage. If you question something they say or do. Don’t stew on it but ask them without being condemning. This is the person you’ve chosen to spend the rest of your life with, you should be able to discuss everything. It’s hard don’t get me wrong. But it makes all the difference. All love and prayers to both of you!! – Marilyn Hall
  222. Be honest with each other. Even when it is uncomfortable.– Erica
  223. Celebrate everything!! Birthdays, anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, Easter, Pet’s birthdays…You get the gist 😉 Always have a reason to have fun, love and laughter every month of the year! xxx – Emma Manley
  224. 1.From day one, establish that divorce will never be an option. During any difficult times purpose to fight towards one another and not away, and take up the fight together and you will have victory.  2. Be careful not to be more emotionally connected with anyone, than you are with one another.  Celebrating your lifelong love! – Jule (blessed in marriage 29 years)
  225. Dear Natalie and fiance, I am a happily (thank God!) newlywed from beautiful Hellas (Greece) and I truly wish you both the very best from the bottom of my heart. I’ll share with you advice that our priest gave us on our  wedding day: “May you always love and respect each other and may you always try to be better, not for yourselves, but mostly for your other half. Always remember the day of your wedding and try to live everyday like this beautiful day and always love each other this much!” Best wishes. – Maria
  226. Don’t be so serious, laugh and have fun together, like when you 1st meet!– Jeannie
  227. Believe the best in your spouse.  Give each other the benefit of the doubt and choose to operate in the mindset that they love you and have your best interest at heart. Congratulations!! – Megan
  228. A woman always has the last say in an argument. Anything that the man says afterwards is just the start of a new argument. – Peter
  229. When we were going through pre-marriage counseling, I was asked to define love.  I defined it as “a choice to act apart from feeling.”  Later, my grandmother stated “a 3 cord strand is not easily broken, it’s deliberately unraveled one piece at a time.” At the time I was getting married and newly married I had no idea how much these two statements would help me through the hardest moments of my marriage.    When conflict and disagreement ran high and it’d be easier to just sleep on the couch, I heard that still small voice say “it’s deliberately unraveled, choose love” and so I would hug him and say “I’m sorry”  It wasn’t always easy, but it always gave us hope that we could push through. – Tiffany
  230. Share a deep friendship with your spouse as well as a bed! Laugh way too much and date each other always!– Taylor Skelton
  231. Be comfortable in living your own separate lives but together. Appreciate the uniqueness in each of your interests and support one another’s hobbies and pursuits. But don’t feel like you have to do everything together all the time. I love living my life next to my husband living his.– Anna
  232. Be each other’s cheerleader. Respect each other and build each other up.Always be kind.
    Always remember birthdays and special events:) -Natasha
  233. Save your best self for each other rather than give it all away to other projects/work/strangers.  Enduring love starts with true friendship and letting God be the leader of your marriage. – Teresa
  234. Love grows deep. The ooey gooey mushy puppy love won’t last forever. But the more you learn about each other, the deeper you will learn to appreciate and respect each other. Your love will grow deeper and stronger, so when the tough times come, your love will remain rooted and established. Congratulations! – Amanda Beard
  235. Marriage is a lot of work! Be devoted to making it work everyday! Always have a ear to listen and take the time to talk often! No day is too busy for each other. Stay playful and always say I love you! Best of luck to you both! – Joanie Blackmore
  236. TALK! Talk about absolutely everything. If the conversation leads to hurt feelings take at least a twenty minutes away from each other without speaking, then come back together and TALK more.– Nakisha Carroll
  237. Every day you must catch each other doing something right and comment on it.  There is nothing more discouraging than trying to please the other person and not getting it right.  There are as many ways to do a job as there are people so give each other room to do a job differently than you would do it And express gratitude. –Shanna Wheeler

  238. Keep the communication. I have been with my husband 36years, Times get hard but with love, you will get through things. Congrats! –Sue

  239. Never be afraid to communicate, for it is the key to eternal happiness! –Kat

  240. Make sure laughter is prominent in your marriage.  It has saved my husband and I a lot of dirty fights because we were able to find humor and make the other laugh. –Michelle

  241. Forgive as much as you can,we all make mistakes.Then go forward with your life. –Terri

  242. 1)Each day share with your spouse One thing about them you are grateful for…different thing each day! Yes you will discover more each passing day!

    2)Whatever disagreement you have settle, seek forgiveness and make amends before you go to bed!

    3) Read Gary Chapmans book on Five Love Languages together!!! Speak your love in the language your spouse will best recieve it!! Gods richest blessing on your “till death do we part” journey! –Margie Heard

  243. Wash his dishes, cook his meals,

    Raise a family, pray together,

    Spend his money, share your thrills

    Through clear and stormy weather

    Help him with work then help him play,

    Always do your part,

    But most important along life’s way-

    Always protect his heart. –Teresa Camp

  244. Conversations can be the most important part of a relationship. Beauty may fade, but your partner’s ability to make you laugh or challenge your thoughts will last forever. –Leigh

  245. Sorry but I have 3 things I’d like to share

    1.  On your wedding pic or engagement pic, each of you either write or have printed the things you truly love about each other.  even write the small things he/she does.  The key is to always focus on the those things, especially when you are angry with each other.  The point is to read those things when you are mad each other so that the thing you are mad about doesn’t seem so bad!  There will be times that you don’t like each other very much, but as long as you can focus on what you love about each other everyday then your love will only grow stronger.  And never, and I mean never focus on the things you dislike, never speak about these things to your friends!  This is the man/woman that you chose to love and stand by your side.  So, remember that because once you begin to focus on the things you dislike, you will notice more and more of the things you dislike. 

    2.  Memorize 1Corinthians 13:4-8 or have it framed in your house because this is the definition of Love.  Then you will need to make sure you are doing these things.  So, Every morning,  replace the word Love and It with your name.  For example,  Natalie is patient, Natalie is kind.  She does not envy, etc.  Then, every night reflect on this. 

    3.  Finally, make sure you bring out the best in one another.  If you can say that your spouse brings out the best of you, then you know you have found the right one! 

    Best wishes!  Love with all your heart!  Grow old together, be the old, gray haired couple that holds hands, still goes on dates, and that your kids and grandkids can admire.  Set goals for your marriage! 

    🙂 JJ Barrier

  246. NEVER go to bed upset with one another.  Always make time to connect with your spouse, and settle any feelings or emotions you’re having.  When you have children, make CERTAIN that this doesn’t change, and mom and Dad are in the same page.  We all love our kids; but a huge problem with marriages is that Husband and Wife forget that your relationship as Husband and Wife is ALWAYS first. If your marriage isn’t strong, your family unit falls apart. –Tricia

  247. Always fight naked! –Marlize

  248. Make time for a weekly date night – ESPECIALLY after you have kids! –Ramey Burch

  249. Fill the house with laughter everyday! –Ashlyn

  250. Dear Natalie and Mr. Fiance.

    I pray you have a blessed journey to marriage and a blessed marriage. Just be sure to stay in prayer, keep God first and if any tension arises always give it to God and let Him fight for you.

    A Great inspiring movie to watch is War Room and FireProof. –Jasmine

  251. Take walks together, especially when you are having a “discussion.” Physically moving in the same direction will help you feel connected, even if you aren’t agreeing (mentally moving in the same direction), and you’re stuck together through the discussion.  Added bonus of endorphins and calorie burn. –Myrianne

  252. 1. Even when you feel he isn’t interested, sit close to him, and touch him! Hold his hand, rub his leg, etc.

    2. Speak words of encouragement! Think of something you wish he would say to you, and tell him at least one encouraging edifying thing each day!

    3. Go out of your way to shower him with love, even when you don’t feel like it, especially when he doesn’t deserve it.

    These three things show unconditional love, they build him up and edifying him AND by building him up, your building yourself up because you are now ONE and what you do for him you do for yourself! Watch it come back 100 fold in ways you never imagined! –Michelle

  253. Simple Advice that can be very useful is, Just because you are thinking it doesn’t mean you can say it out loud right then. If you think it will help your mate choose a tactful way to address it so that no one gets mad or sad instantly. –Step

  254. One of our favorite ways to express our love is to leave messages to each other on the windows with a magic marker. This is especially great for those days when work schedules don’t allow you to see each other all day long. Just a quick note or doodle on the window is such a fun thing to come home to. Magic markers wipe right off windows and mirrors with a paper towel. Easy and fun! –Kelsi

  255. Never go to bed mad. My husband and I always give a hug and a kiss before leaving home. –Paula

  256. Personally I think it’s really important to show to  your spouse love and affection every single time and during your all life. Surprise your spouse often, make you pretty for him/her, prepare date night, send him messages all along the day… It makes him loved and obviously happy. Never forget that your spouse is this special one who knows you the best, he loves you more that his one’s life so give him confidence. If you have a problem, if you’re sad, afraid talk to him. He is your better half, he will help you and support you no matter what’s happened. Support him in all the things that he does and show him that you’re very proud of him! And last advice but not the least, never let bad people separate you from your lover. Listen your heart and nothing else. You have choose to spend you’re life with him so he is a very good guy so follow your heart and not the bad advice!

    I hope you will have a beautiful spouse’s life and I hope you the best! –Laurie

  257. Congratulations on your engagement!! I am so excited to hear about a happy knot about to be tied!! I wish I could send you all the books and quotes and pages of information and help to give you a great start! But I’d love to share some I’ll try and fit in! ~Don’t go to your parents or friends when you have trouble with your man. My husband and I moved to Alaska and lived in a tent to get away from family so we only relied on each other. “Cleaving” as the bible puts it. It was SO healthy for our marriage. ~Fight to understand not to win. Before a fight gets nasty, look into each other’s eyes and say out loud “YOU are not my enemy,” the devil comes between you two, you don’t go against each other. Identify where the devil is trying to trip you up and kick him out without kicking each other! ~ Be open about sex. NO ONE is ready for the complicated 1,000 piece jigsaw puzzle that sex is! And I honestly believe 80% of people in marriages are not sexual fulfilled because they are too embarrassed or don’t feel completely loved enough to share the deep sexual desires GOD created them with. People are different and have different taste. Give your spouse a chance to be themselves in that area!! ~ Go to FamilyLife Weekend to Remeber. They will give you the BEST start even if you do it years after marriage. The information they give is Vital to your marriage. I speak Gods calling on your marriage!!! Show the world what real love looks like! –Nikki

  258. When arguing make a funny face! You wont remember what the argument was about anyway! Best wishes! –Lacy

  259. NEVER, NEVER stop dating each other. The small things are just as important and the big things. Congratulations. –Amanda

  260. Remember to never let the sun set on your anger and hold each other every single night. You will wake up happy and in love every day of your marriage. –Samie Starburst

  261. Enjoy the journey. Life is always changing, Enjoy each stage as it comes with its variety of challenges and joys and thrills:) –Wanda Horst

  262. Make dinner time a special time – at the table not in front of tv. Turn off all devices to enjoy food & conversation. As you add to your family, keep this as family time. As lives get busy, this time stays valuable. Plans, dreams, sorrows, joy, & love gets shared around food.  Meal planning keeps things simple in the kitchen – especially as your family grows. It saves on the grocery budget. It doesn’t have to be difficult to plan out a week or two of meals. It doesn’t need to be fancy. Love can be shared over a pan of mac & cheese.  Besides having a relationship with Christ first, your husband second, speaking love with food is one thing that has stayed constant in our 23 years of marriage, 3 kids, a multi state relocation & major health issues.  May your marriage be as blessed as ours has been with an opportunity to learn more about each other through all that life brings in a marriage.                        –Cande Coulter

  263. Sometimes the urge to complain about your spouse to your girlfriends is strong.  Those complaints are never constructive and can build resentment over time.  Strive to only brag about the good and thoughtful things.  It will help you appreciate your spouse more.  Also, have a complaint jar for each of you.  Place your complaints in the jar marked for your spouse and visa versa.  You choose either daily or weekly to go through the jar separately and then come together to discuss it.  To make things fair, try to keep your complaints about true problems that need to be brought to the others attention or need/can be worked on.  Small petty stuff, especially if it was present before the marriage and never brought up as an issue should be off limits.  For somethings, you knew about it going in and if you didn’t address those things before then they are off the table. 

    Be constructive in the descriptions, too.  For example you don’t feel you are getting enough affection.  You can put it this way:  I really love when, for no apparent reason, you walk up behind me and give me a big hug and a kiss on the neck.  I miss that.

    Or:  I seem to not have enough time to get every thing done.  It would help me out so much if you were able to rinse your dirty dish and put it in to the dishwasher.  Etc.  Be constructive and word things in a way you would want it brought up to you. –Beth

  264. Never assume you know what your spouse is thinking or feeling without asking (in a loving way)… Don’t assume the worst!!! –Dorette Taylor

  265. Your spouse is a direct reflection of your heart. Your responses to him/her in an angry moment will expose your heart’s room-for-growth-areas. God does this on purpose to help YOU grow in Christ. Read Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggreich to learn about unconditional respect responses toward your hubby and unconditional love responses toward your wife. Eph 5:3 –Ter

  266. In times of arguments: Listen. There are always two sides to a story. Your spouse isn’t intentionally trying to hurt you or be inconsiderate, but are stressed, tired and doing their best in a confusing world. Greet arguments with compassion, acts of kindness and love. Chances are, you’ll find out that they are battling something much bigger. This has saved so much heartache in our marriage. Listen. –Simone

  267. Married 29 years. Do not look to your Beloved to be your Everything…Look for ways to fill the holes in each others souls–gently, passionately, with fresh eyes each morning.  This way, you’ll never grow apart. –Paula

  268. Don’t ever lose who YOU are as an individual and support your spouse in finding out who THEY are. Best of luck! –Trina

  269. You can’t do marriage alone it takes more then the two of you to hold it together. Keep Christ at the center of your lives individually AND as a couple! When he’s the foundation you will find yourself being able to make the sacrifices necessary to have a beautiful and godly marriage that others wish they had! The best part is that they, too, can have the  same type of marriage.   They just need to follow this advice as well! Best wishes! –Sarah Miller

  270. Laugh – a lot! Laugh at your self, laugh at your partner, laugh together.  Marriage isn’t supposed to be work (well not all the time) it should be fun! When you’re marrying your other half/best friend, laughter will bring you closer together.  Life goes up and down and if you’ve found someone to laugh through it all with you, you are doing alright! –Katie

  271. If something bothers you communicate it in the moment. Don’t wait till later or until he notices you are upset. Be honest be not harsh, and be respectful that he may understand where you are coming from. –Joanna

  272. Always remember to listen, and I mean really listen to each other, even when you don’t agree still listen! And before you respond remember that you guys are a TEAM always! Oh and date night is a must, no excuses, never stop dating and flirting with each other!! –Angie & Jeremy Olson

  273. Always look for the positive and practice gratitude every day. When things get hard, remember why you fell in love in the first place! –Christina & Evan Sherman

  274. Always be upfront and honest with each other!!!!!!!   Never try to hide anything, even if it is just that one little credit card, “that he doesn’t need to know about”… –Sherry

  275. Don’t fight on an empty stomach – hangry people say the meanest things. –Maggie

  276. Natalie,

    I got married almost two years ago to the boy-man who continues to be my best and dearest friend. My! what a time it’s been. There has been lots of laughter, lots of tears, lots of hugs and lots of intimacy. And it’s been wonderful. Enjoy it! Don’t spend your time wishing for what could be, or what isn’t. Learn to love the little things that are. If your husband works all night painting your loving room when you really, really would rather he would just stop and snuggle with you, appreciate the sweet love that prompts him to want this home to be perfect for his bride. If you find yourself feeling that he has let you down, focus on all the ways he doesn’t. Remember that time he went out of his way just to bring a smile to your face.  Joy is a choice. Make that choice.

    I don’t know if you are a Christian or not, but if you are not, I joyfully, sincerely, tearfully encourage you to consider this important issue, especially as you are on the threshold of marriage. Christ is such a pivotal point to marriage. He strengthens it, enriches it.  He fulfills longings our spouse cannot touch…  He is so essential to all of life, but in marriage, which in itself is a picture of Him, He really outdoes himself. 🙂

    I wish you all the best as you enter this exciting new life! Praying blessings and many happy years upon you both,

    -Grace

  277. Love and marriage, as everything else in life, is a choice. It is a choice that you make to always love, respect, trust, stay with and commit to that one person.

    So every day when you wake up…remember to make that very important choice…that you will stay married to the love of your life…that you will love and honor, respect and trust that person, no matter what. 🙂

    May you have one awesome marriage life together, blessed in making the right choices forward. –Karien

  278. Learn each other’s love languages. Google it. I’m serious it will make a huge difference!

    Date monthly.

    Financial Peace University- take the classes. Learn how to save and be debit free! –Holly

  279. Always have a date night once a week! No matter what! Attend a good christian church, you will need Gods help. Congrats! –John R

  280. “Always assume good will.” Remember foremost that you LOVE each other, and would not intentionally hurt the other one. We’re human and make thoughtless mistakes. When we do, seize that opportunity to get to know the other one better with a clear open mind and unconditional love…listen, understand,learn from your mistakes, apologize, forgive, LOVE. –Ali

  281. Never let the other person become background scenery! Your spouse is the one thing that should always be in focus. LOVE TO LOVE THEM.

    Best wishes, Jacob Leighton

  282. Take road trips together.  These are where our best conversations happen.  There’s all the time in the world to express yourself and dig deep into possible issues.  We also learn something together, usually a bible study, and have incredible debates.  We treasure our road trips and try to get as many in as we can. –Dana & Carl Mohr

  283. Always keep the lines of communication open! To keep frustrations from building up and to get you in the habit of communicating, pick a day of the week to sit down and ask each other a series of questions:

    What frustrations have you had with your spouse this week?

    Was there anything on your mind this week that you haven’t shared, good or bad?

    What is something that you appreciated about your spouse this week?

    This may take only 15 minutes, or it may take 2 hours but be consistent and always make the time to do it.  It is a worthwhile investment in your marriage! –Lindsay

  284. Choose your spouse every single day, and look for the good in them! Fall in love all over again every morning when you wake up to see your spouse’s face, and remember that not only did you choose them, but they chose you, and that is reason enough to love them! –Tessa

  285. Just be patient, have an open ear. Always listen and actually hear what the other person is saying. Love deeply and cherish every moment to the fullest. -Casey

  286. Dear Natalie and your beloved,

    After 32 years of our marriage, I think the most important things I could share with you are to learn the meaning of truly sacrificial love, dying to selfishness for the good of the other, learn to forgive with your heart and memory, be open to life, not keep secrets from one another in the present and future, practice frugality early and get used to living on little and one income so that if and when you have to, it is not such a shock and sacrifice, and make sure you have time for fun and each other.

    Not sure where you are with faith, but getting to know the Lord and basing your marriage upon Him is an awesome start to a fulfilled life. No matter what trials befall you, He will be your Rock and the Foundation of your marriage.  May our Lord bless you and keep you always in His care. We’ll be praying for you and your lifetime marriage.

    Remember the wedding is JUST a day. Your marriage is a lifetime. Make sure you spend as much time daily in preparing for life and living it together forever, as you are going to spend preparing for a day of excitement as you begin it. In terms of the wedding day, no one but YOU knows how it is “supposed to be”. If something gets screwed up, and there will be at least one, no worries. Nobody knows. Everyone just wants to see you happy, so go with the flow and enjoy your special day. All the goofy things that go wrong are memory makers. My veil caught fire as we signed our Bible together, flowers didn’t turn out, and I ended up forgetting them in our pics. We smiled and laughed then and now. Seriously, just enjoy this special day as you begin it with your best friend. Wow, didn’t mean to share this much. Be your hubby’s best friend and love him to pieces. Each day is a gift to be opened with joy and made the best of. So enjoy this time of preparation and excitement, and thoroughly love your life with your hubby! –Teresa

  287. * Keep God first in your marriage and individually

    * Plan date nights with each other in mind. For example I plan a date night for something my husband would like. The next week he plans something I would like.

    *  Stay playful

    * Be each other’s #1 fan

    * Pick your battles

    * Check out OneFlesh.com also for oneness advice

    * When someone says I’m Sorry, reply I forgive you. There is power in those words.

    * Laugh a lot!

    * Pray for each other daily

    These have helped us a great deal. We have our ups and downs, but we are each other’s best friends! Best wishes and Blessings on your marriage and life.

    Ashley

  288. Forgive often. Never go to bed angry. Seek to

    Unconditionally love each other. Choose your battles. Be

    Romantic. know each other’s love language and speak it

    regularly. Pray together, for each other, and go to church

    Together. Serve together. –Sarah

  289. Always keep God 1st. Always love God more than each other. And always remember if the lightbulb goes out you don’t go buy another house you fix the one you got. Happy marriage. –Stacey

  290. Always have a date night.  Even if it’s just a stroll in the park. –Pam

  291. Pray together each night. Pray together each night. Did I mention – pray together each night?! It will be the glue that holds your marriage together…

    Being together in God’s Presence has a way of shining a light on our selfishness, pride and anger with each other. Just a few minutes a night (okay, sometimes much longer!) will keep your relationship real and strong! –Jolyn

  292. Learn how to forgive quickly. –Carla

  293. Always be truthfull, playful, and incessant. –Ana

  294. I have been married to my very best friend for 10 years. We have 4 handsome, rowdy boys to show for it. If I had to pick marriage advice to give to someone, there are 3 that I think sums up how to make your marriage not only last, but be made everything God intended it to be.

    1. Pray together – Staying focused on the Lord together is going to get you through ANYTHING! I have lived this first hand.

    2. Forgive – Never go to bed angry. NEVER. It is not worth it!

    3. Continue to date – After 10 years and 4 boys, my husband and I still go on dates, even though they are fewer and far between than we used to, it is still a priority. It helps refresh our relationship together. He is still my very best friend!

    Congrats to the couple and God Bless! –Jonna Moore

  295. Don’t sweat the small stuff; if its really not going to matter tomorrow or in the future; let it go! Concentrate on the big issues and what will affect your marriage. –Anette Longville

  296. To the bride: I cannot stress enough how important physical intimacy is! There will be times when it’s more important to one of you than the other; it’s a two way street, but inevitably men prioritize it more than women do. Always make time for your husbands needs. To the Groom: I cannot stress how important tenderness, gentleness and loving words and gestures are! Never stop “courting” your wife! Always make time to find ways to make her feel special, beautiful, wanted and loved. This is also a two way street however it is inevitable that women prioritize romantic gestures over physical intimacy. We are much more likely to be intimate when we feel loved and appreciated! Through the ups and the downs, the trials and tribulations of family and work, if you continue to make each other the number one priority in your life you will have a successful marriage. –Dava

  297. Put the Lord first. Love Him more then each other and your marriage will be blessed beyond measure.  Keep Him in the room at all times when making decisions and invite Him to dwell in your homes, hearts and lives. –Tracie Baker-Smith

  298. Don’t worry too much about small stuff; what matters is how you deal with things together. –Angela Stockton

  299. Communication, trust, honesty, understanding, and appreciation. It’s not always going to be easy but it will be worth it!!! Remember this day and how much you felt for the man your going to marry. Don’t forget all the things you love about him. Patience, love and marriage takes a lot of patience. Support! No matter what show him you support him. And keep the sex exciting lol –Autumn Locascio

  300. Put God in the center of your relationship. Say a prayer together every night before you go to sleep, talk about spiritual matters and follow God’s word. I’ve been in a wonderful relationship for almost six years now and married for 7 months to the man of my dreams and we strive to put God at the center of our relationship. Don’t get me wrong though, we’ve definitely had our ups and downs. It can be a real hard struggle, but God gets us through it every time! –Maggie Roy

  301. No matter what you do, never go without telling your spouse  and showing them daily that you love them and you are their biggest supporter. Also be the one they can come to for comfort, support  and encouragement. And one secret about men, if they have a hobby that they enjoy, that they don’t shove you aside for, let them enjoy it and have some “me” time. –Jessica Smith

  302. Always remember to cuddle before falling asleep, be grateful and say thank you for even the little things and say I love you every single day. Never take each other for granted and never criticize the other in public. –Merituuli

  303. When you get to the point where you feel as though the love has gone and maybe it’s just bitterness or annoyance, see them as one of God’s children, broken, struggling, imperfect, and love them as God loves them. You will love them again for your own sake. –Rachael

  304. Be very careful what you say.  Harmful words can be like swords, they can cut deeply and leave scars forever.  Loving words can also last forever by lifting, encouraging, or teaching. Either way, they can leave an impression that can last a lifetime. Choose carefully.

    Congratulations to you both. –Diane & Mike Winterboer

  305. RESPECT is the key and CORE to a long lasting and amazing marriage. Each person should do their best to never cut the other person down just to make a point or to seem better than the other. Never EVER speak about your spouse in a negative way in public, even if you are just joking around. It cuts away at the core of the marriage and even if they didn’t hear it, it will get back to them and cause a invisable wound that with time can destroy love and respect. If each of you continually is asking themselves, “What can I do to make him or her happy and secure” and then acting on it, you will have many precious moments and memories together. Never tolerate any type of ABUSE whether it is verbal, emotional, physical or sexual. Seek HELP immediately from a professional to protect yourself from years of pain and eventual heartache! Watch how you speak to each other when you have a disagreement. Speak in soft and tender tones to keep the atmosphere condusive to a good conclusion where both feel heard and understood but still loved, cherished and adored! Best Wishes on a sacred and fabulous marriage! –Sue

  306. Communication-Everything can be work through with just plain talking about anything!

    Trust- If you don’t have trust you don’t have anything. –Laurel

  307. When the little frustrations of daily married life start to get to you, ask yourself, “Will this matter 5 years from now?”  It helps keep things in perspective.

    Also, no matter what you are going through, always remember, “This too, shall pass.” –Shannah

  308. Don’t get lost in the day to day. Take a moment to really step back and appreciate each other. No matter how busy life gets, don’t stop dating. –Electa

  309. Plan a weekly date night……same night every week…..gives you both something to look forward to and be excited for…..get dressed up/make reservations….make it special and romantic!  We had triplets when our first born was 2-1/2 and date nights were our saving grace….but you don’t have to have children to plan them! –Missi LeFave

  310. If you go through a rough patch, go back to the beginning. Remember when you first met, your first dates, what did together and what you liked/loved about each other. It helps to move past the bad feelings your having towards your partner and get back to what you love about them and your relationship. Helps you to refocus and realise that you really do love each other. –Leigh

  311. Always show you love him/her with little notes in lunch box or around the house any day….be spontaneous! –Donna

  312. My advice to the bride and groom would be to always be upfront and honest with each other, never hold a grudge; if something is bothering you, let the other person know and talk it out! –Samantha Hill

  313. Share everything! Have open and honest communication at all times! –Dee

  314. Give each other lots of grace and mercy.  Marriage is wonderful and fun and exciting-most of the time. When things get slow or boring it is up to one of you to decide to be very intentional about your marriage and keeping the “romance” alive-been married 20 years and still in love with my wife. –Jerry

  315. Don’t throw stones you can’t take back. If you are arguing and you’ve got the perfect comeback that you know will hurt and win you the fight, don’t use it. It will hurt even more later and it would be better to lose the argument. –Kimberly

  316. Never EVER stop dating your spouse!!! Kiss each other every time the other walks out the door. Even if they are just going to get milk. –Kay Raymond

  317. Appreciate each other! Say please and thank you and try to focus on what you love about each other, instead of what you don’t. Always say I love you when leaving and going to bed. –Stephanie

  318. Work together on your household budget,  hold regular family councils,  go grocery shopping together (it’s actually more fun) never stop flirting with each other! –Kate

  319. Always, always be honest with your spouse 100% of the time.  No matter how bad the news may be or how hard a topic might be to discuss, if you don’t have total faith in your spouse your marriage will not succeed.  If you’re going to be there for each other to celebrate the great moments, you have to be there to help out your partner during the rough patches. –Edward McCarthy

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4 Responses to BEST Marriage Advice for Newlyweds! – Part 1

  1. I absolutely love this list! My husband and I have been married a year and are expecting our first child soon so much of this advice comes at the perfect time! I can’t wait to read part 2!
    Bree