How to Strip Tease Like a Pro πŸ”₯

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If the thought of learning to striptease for your spouse seems a little intimidating, you are definitely not alone. Trying something new in the bedroom can be scary, but we promise the results are well worth it! Here are a few reasons why you should learn to striptease. Then keep reading for tips on how to actually do it!

Learn how to strip tease like a pro with 10 tips
Outfit inspiration to wear while strip teasing. | The Dating Divas
Outfit inspiration for the perfect striptease.
  1. It keeps things fresh and exciting – Research shows that when you’re open to new experiences, your marriage will blossom. And that’s a pretty great thing in a society where so much of what we do is routine.
  2. It boosts your self-esteem-  Fewer things put a bigger damper on your sex life than low self-esteem or confidence. Learning how to dance for your man or woman will give you a sense of confidence like never before.
  3. Unquestionably, it relieves stress – Practically any type of movement works to reduce stress, and dancing is no different. Adding a sexy component heightens the experience even more!
  4. It gets you (and your spouse!) in the mood – Both spouses (but especially men!) respond to visual sexual stimuli, so why not put on a show?

Sexy Strip Tease Tips

Now that you know why you should striptease for your lover – you need to learn HOW. We know it can be a little intimidating to get started, so we brought together a few simple tips on how to avoid an awkward striptease. With these tips in mind, you’ll know how to perform a sexy striptease in no time! πŸ˜‰

1. Be Yourself

This one is our #1 tip! It is so important to just be yourself and have fun with it! If you do something that doesn’t feel genuine to YOU then you may end up feeling uncomfortable or awkward. Make it fun and make it…YOU.

2. Wear Something That You Feel Comfortable & Sexy in

The visual aspect is key when doing a striptease. Make sure you are wearing something that makes you feel sexy and you know your spouse would like, while also feeling comfortable in it. (We absolutely LOVE anything from Mentionables!)

3. Lighting, Makeup & Music

Wearing something sexy is very important, but it is also just as important to prep yourself. Do your makeup, curl your hair, pin your hair up, whatever you want to feel sexy and confident! Pick out a song you feel comfortable dancing to (see our best list of strip tease songs below) and dim those lights for a more romantic vibe.

4. Practice, Practice, Practice!

We’ve all heard the saying that practice makes perfect and this could not ring more true, even for a striptease! If you are nervous, definitely take the time to practice in the mirror. This will boost your confidence and help you know what you feel comfortable doing.

5. Don’t worry about anything else

This is a time to let loose and just have fun! It is so easy to worry about what your spouse is thinking or how awkward you may feel – but I promise they are loving every second and are probably stunned that you are even doing what you are doing, so, own it!

6. Flip Your Hair

When in doubt, do the hair flip! πŸ˜‰ No matter how silly you think you look doing it, your spouse will LOVE IT!

7. Don’t Rush it

Take your time and striptease slowly. Let your spouse enjoy the moment. With that being said, don’t be intimated and think it needs to be a long, drawn-out event.

8. Don’t think about your “flaws”

You are FLAWLESS in this moment. Own it! The last thing on your partner’s mind is any flaw you think you may have! Even though it can be tough, just trust that you look amazing and you got this!

9. Enjoy it (just as much as your partner)

Stripteasing is not just for the viewer, it is for you as well! Enjoy it. Let it be fun, funny, spontaneous, or whatever else you want it to be, and just let loose!

10. Confidence is KEY

Confidence in what you are doing changes everything! When you are confident, it makes you feel empowered. Confidence is also sexy, so even if you don’t feel super confident about strip teasing (especially if it is your first time,) just fake it and we promise you will make it.

25 Best Strip tease songs

When it comes to performing a strip tease, you NEED a good backup song to strip to, right? So we searched high and low to come up with this list for you (and may have tested a few out)!

  1. Rock Your Body” – Justin Timberlake
  2. Heaven” – Pink Sweat$
  3. Lights Down Low” – MAX
  4. This Is Heaven” – Nick Jonas
  5. Butterflies” – MAX, Fletcher
  6. Call Out My Name” – The Weeknd
  7. I Wanna Be With You” – Mandy Moore
  8. Your Body is a Wonderland” – John Mayer
  9. Worth It” – Fifth Harmony, Kid Ink
  10. Move” – Little Mix
  11. Want to Want Me” – Jason Derulo
  12. Shower” – Becky G
  13. Mamacita” – VOILÁ
  14. Your Man” – Josh Turner
  15. What Lovers Do” – Maroon 5, SZA
  16. Do It Like This” – Daphne Willis
  17. Let Me Love You” – Mario
  18. Let Me” – ZAYN
  19. Hands to Myself” – Selena Gomez
  20. Neon On Ya” – Scott Stevens
  21. Dance for You” – Beyonce
  22. Versace on the Floor” – Bruno Mars, David Guetta
  23. Be My Baby” – Ariana Grande, Cashmere Cat
  24. Whisper” – Chase Rice
  25. If You Let Me” – SinΓ©ad Harnett, GRADES

For your convenience, we put all of these on a Spotify playlist for you! Now you have no excuse for performing tonight. πŸ˜‰

BONUS: Helpful Strip Tease Activity

Being The Dating Divas, OF COURSE, we couldn’t just leave you hanging on how to plan this special type of night.

Strip tease activity for couples. | The Dating Divas
Fun strip teasing activity to do for a date night at home.

We’ve come up with a done-for-you date idea that will teach you how to striptease in no time. So fun, right?! Best of all, it’s done in a totally tasteful way that will heat things up in the bedroom without making anyone uncomfortable. We’ve even included a printable invitation (also a digital invitation), guides, cue cards, and more to help take this idea to the next level. Doesn’t this sound like fun? Ready, set, strip!

Cards teaching how to strip tease. | The Dating Divas
Printables to help teach you how to perform a striptease.

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  1. I’m older, and self-conscious about my neck flab, so I don’t want to put my hubby in a chair looking up at me. Any alternative ideas?

    1. Hi Madda! You could try facing him while he stands with his back against the wall. You’ll essentially be at the same level which should help you feel more comfortable. Best!

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